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Thanks for the advice, a lot of it has made me think about some things. YGirl--Thanks for the link, I'm reading it in another page as we speak. I'm having a hard time dealing with rationality since a lot of the articles and posts written on dealing with emotions say that things don't always...

So I've run into a bit of a problem lately. I have been seeing someone, J, and things have been going very well between us. I met J at a party in January and we started talking about books since he was starting a book club at his house. I started going to it before there was any kind of romantic...

I like the kind where everyone gets along and can hang out, or at least recognize the other partners and accept them without feeling the need to belittle them or put up walls. Having said that, I usually try not to talk about one partner when I am with the other partner unless they ask and even...

I think the key is to dream without losing a sense of the reality and what is good about the real world. Having said that, my ideal relationship would be one of equal love, where there is no wondering whether you care as much for the person/people as they do for you. It would be between...

Wow that sounds wonderfully complicated!

I don't think J totally counts as a secondary but there is a stronger emotional connection than if he were a tertiary, so for now I'll use that term. Usually I get to see him once a week for a day or an evening. I would like more but T is very uneasy about the amount of time I spend with him. So...

The thoughts you are dealing with right now can be very scary and it sounds like they're really swallowing you up. Not fun. You feel like if he spending time with her because he would rather be with her than you. Well, he is spending time with her because he wants to spend time with her. That...

RP you're not a secret Easterner desiguised as a Westerner are you? Dryden is gorgeous, hopefully you guys have been having a better spring to experience it than Toronto has!

Middle north as in Kenora area? I never realized how much middle of nowhere Ontario has until I started going to uni here and met tons of people from towns with about 100 residents. It blows my mind!

Floating bubbles and bursting bubbles AutumnalTone...what you said about it eventually going away has really stuck with me. I think I'm going to keep that in my head for awhile. KT...if I were in the same position as you I think I would be going over the deep end. Your strength is something I...

and then we could have paramour maritus paramour!

1 vote for sans primary! I say we tackle this one next.

These are great recs guys! We just watched The Dreamers which isn't 100% poly but it was excellent all the same. Eva Green was phenomenal and she's gorgeous too! Also has anyone seen A Home At The End of the World? That's one got one of my favourite lines in it: "It's just love"

By those standards a lot of people are technically single...maybe we could use sans primary or SP instead of single?

Online name My real name is a very common name but my parents were trying to spell it in the proper Russian way when I was born and messed it up horribly so it is very um, unique I guess. I googled myself once and it turns out I only need my first name since there's no one else out there online...

The Goddess Said To The Mortal Rereading what I wrote derail is too strong a term. It wasn't a huge emotional impact more like something I wasn't expecting. But it is good to hear that it is eventually something I will get completely used to. I wanted to discuss another issue, motif that I've...

Normally I don't write blogs or at least I'm not very good at them but with the sheer amount of things happening lately I feel like maybe it's a good time to start. I'd like to start with a little bit of history about how I came here (I know there's a biography post so maybe I will copy and...

Wow. The amount of love and respect in this thread between all of you is amazing and wonderful. It is the type of thing I can only hope will be in my life one day. Rolypoly I think you have entered into something lovely and special and I hope all the best for you and the course of your...

I agree with everything that has been posted here, but I wanted to add that once you do have that conversation and he (hopefully) agrees, be prepared to be patient. People who have those fears can't just let go of them overnight. He will probably need baby steps with lots of reassurance and long...

I'm still reading the rest of the threads but I just wanted to say....it sounds like some kind of transformer or anime character. :P I think it is normal. The more you learn about a person and their life and the people in it the more opportunity you have to form emotional connections with...