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What do you come here to hear people say? I see the problem is your post didn't go as you planned, and the board didn't meet your expectations. This is the part I don't understand. I'm sure it makes sense to you, and that's why you are having trouble with the reaction. Even if all 3 of you...

Trust A few weeks back I read this thread http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=46770 and I truly appreciate these posters sharing their stories of rebuilding trust. Yet I thought, well we didn't go through any of that. That made me wonder if Herman trusts me at all, what if he just...

Maybe I just Don't Get It Maybe I am being overly simplistic in my view of poly and multiple relationships. I keep seeing those words "that isn't poly" or "poly is..." and I think, "that's nice, I don't really need to fit that exactly." I can see the argument that a narrow and pure definition...

The Black Spot I have been writing but not posting here for the last few weeks as I had been wanting to make an effort to talk to my partners instead of posting it here. This effort was rather unsuccessful. I feel embarrassed about my newfound attachment to the concept of polyamory. I think...

Thanks for your comment and the well wishes Hannah. It sounds like a self esteem issue all around, I know the three of us have weak spots there. For another example, last week Jasper's dad got married. I'm not nearly as close with my parents and his parents split when he was young, my parents...

I've never seen your story that way, Fran. MD just seems unsure if she can handle being in polyamorous relationships that also have to be kept secret. She knows this isn't what she wants, ideally, but has strong feelings for both of you. Understandable that she is torn. Not sure there is any...

Leelee, I'm not saying you're not poly, but maybe you are expecting too much from it. The part about wanting an actual relationship and not just sex isn't unreasonable, but the part where finding a poly partner means you're going to automatically get x,y,z is. People who are in open...

You know I really felt like communication has been improving but... Well I guess it is more obvious now why I was so upset last thursday. It seems Jasper didn't actually hear me say any of those things I hadn't done yet. I'm not sure how that is possible but it was late... Well he certainly...

Yes, that sounds great, and was not clear to me before.

The 3 of us set out to get this trip ironed out on saturday night. I finally realized it is exceedingly difficult for them to help because we each look at planning with entirely different priorities. Herman wants to address each detail in chronological order while I want to make decisions in...

I don't see the part of the story where she is preventing his education. He responded himself by saying she wants him to get an education, she just doesn't want him to move to another town to do it, which happens to be tied to a new person. As I understand, it was not his plan to go to that...

That is exactly what I thought. Your path has completely changed based on other people who just happened to show up in your life. If those chance events hadn't taken place you'd have followed an entirely different course. I was trying to suggest that you be wary of pointing yourself on any...

I am officially old and have lost my perspective from youth. I got married at 18 to a man a met when I was 16. He is 12 years older than me. I know I sound like an asshole who is judging you for being young and wanting to have fun and talking about marriage. It sort of blows my mind that a post...

Why is this guy getting the "She's trying to control you" speech instead of the NRE speech? You say you were fine with the relationship with your fiancee until this new person came along. What changed the original relationship that you are no longer happy with it other than someone came along...

Reread the post, Newguy: Not that BG needs me to defend him, but where did you even get the idea BoringGuy was attacking you? If he was attacking anyone, is was the OP. He only referred to you to say that while you (Newguy) don't think the OP is a jerk, "we" (the group) don't actually know if...

It strikes me as funny how often people ask and answer whether something is right or wrong, fair or unfair. Who needs a right and wrong? Who cares if what you're doing is fair, if someone is miserable? Any policy is fine as long as the people involved are happy with it that way. As newguy points...

Sorry for the drama Ok I'm free! I was an alternate juror. Which means you are present for the whole trial which I totally understood and remained calm during. But then once they go into deliberations, they just lock the alternates in a room and thats it, no further instructions, stay here...

If you're looking for potential pitfalls I'm gonna tell you right away don't ever say that one fills holes the other doesn't ever again. Ok that could just be my opinion but as someone coming from a somewhat similar story I winced. Maybe that is true for you and maybe these two woman could...

Trapped I am not supposed to be telling you where I am but I'll say I am being legally held and prevented from going to work for the 7th day now. I can't leave and my existence has not been acknowledged for 2 going on 3 days and now I am fairly certain they've forgotten I exist as I haven't...

Last week Jasper called in the evening and I went into the bedroom to grab the phone and then instead of returning to the living room where I had been sitting, I just fell into bed and talked in there. Herman stayed in the living room past his usual bed time which I thought which was a little...