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We went out for dinner and had a really good talk. We have a lot of work to do, but I think this is going to turn out for the best. I just have to be aware and respect my partner's slower process. I live in my world of wanting to put my foot to the gas and well--he's just not there. So I'll have...

It's been a while since I've posted. I've really missed everyone. So, back in February I was in a triad with my spouse and another woman. She had differing values about using protection and I ended it with her. He's still friends with her, although they are not romantically involved. My spouse...

GalaGirl is wise. Doing something for the sake of somebody else to keep the relationship together is not really a good idea. I'll keep you in my thoughts. Sorry you are having a tough time.

my sponsor has come around since i posted that. i think a lot of wanting her to accept me was just me not truly accepting me as a poly person. many things have happened since i've joined this forum and i'm in a completely different person.

Well, yesterday we sat down together and he said that he would basically do anything to keep our marriage together, even if that meant I had other lovers, male and female. He said he'd think about it, but he was pretty sure that he was willing to do whatever to keep us together. I honestly...

My situation is kind of awkward right now. Getting ready to file for divorce. We still live together and share a bed, no sex. I don't want any with him. We had a "misunderstanding" about 5-6 months ago and things happened that were not agreed to by me. After that, I really never wanted to do it...

Just floatin' on that's about all I can do.

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Hey Y'all, I lurked for a while and posted way back, now I'm back again. Things have changed quite a bit since my last post. I've realized I opened up my marriage for the wrong reasons, the hard way. Without launching a huge post, let's just say me realizing who I was as a queer poly person...

OOOOps! No, I haven't been to many other threads. I have a limited time to goof off on teh interwebs. I'm sorry for starting another similar thread. Thanks so much for the love and support! I really do feel better.

Hey Everyone, This is the spot where everyone and anyone can share how they made small victories in their new relationships. Thanks to many responses to my posts, I decided to set myself up for success and have company over when my spouse is with our lover. A couple of people said they were...

After starting the "Am I out of line?" thread, I was wondering about other poly families and what they have as rules when it comes to being ill and kids being ill. I'm pretty sure everything has been resolved, I just want to know what is reasonable and what isn't. For example, kids being sick...

Thanks for all of the feedback Hey Everyone, Thanks for the feedback. I think everyone had really thoughtful stuff to say and I really appreciated those who validated my feelings. I also respected and agreed with AnnabelMore's response. No, it wasn't a super emergency, I just wanted him to...

Redpepper is wise and needs to make an affirmations calendar. Just sayin.' As I go along in this experience, I find it better on me if I just go with the flow. Every time I try to fight it or keep score, I get bummed out.

still trying to figure it out When I made love to my girlfriend, realized I had feelings for her AND still loved my spouse, I knew. I also was pretty anxious because I felt like I was coming out all over again, and on a whole different level. I don't feel like I can really be out because of the...

Sorry I didn't answer the questions. We've always worked pretty good as partners. Once we had kids, he was super obsessed with us having an even distribution of labor, which as we all know is not possible when parenting. Sometimes we do a little more than the other in one form or another. I did...

it's a matter of perception I honestly think I'm resentful because I've worked all day and am tired. He works second shift, so his plans would have involved him stopping by the pharmacy on the way home and coming home instead of going to our lover's house. Theoretically, we'd all be sleeping...

Am I out of line thinking the following scenario is selfish? I have worked all day since 5:30 am. I picked the kids up at day care and our daughter is sick with a fever. She just threw up all over the place and I called my spouse at work to ask him if he would reconsider having his sex time...

I have no idea how to define myself other than fluid. I'm biologically female, but sometimes I don't always feel that way. I don't know what that means. I don't like to say bi because that implies there are only two genders. I feel like there are shades and variations, and they are all...

I'm sure there has to be other members of a 12 step program out there, right? I belong to one and have been sober for almost 19 years. Since sobriety/solvency/abstinence from addiction takes a spiritual component for success, I figured this fit into the spirituality area, or maybe life stories...