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I have a partner who is bi, and he has a bf that he sees from time to time. It is also more of a sexual attraction than a deep relationship. Altho, with the guy he is with now, I have seen that it is developing to more than a friendship, which is perfectly fine with me. Having said that, I...

I completely agree with RedPepper. The primary relationship needs to be strong and solid before you add other relationships into it. Polyamory is sometimes difficult, and although it is very worth it, you need to go into it with your eyes open and be willing to work for it. Having a strong...

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I don't think its an absolute necessity for everybody to be great friends. Both my bfs are cordial to each other when they happen to run into each other, but we don't make it a point to all be together at once. I have my time with O and then I have my time with K. O has more jealousy issues than...

Hi :), am new too

Thanks, its really nice to have a place to come to and ppl to talk to about all these aspects.

I agree, its very hard. I get so used to spending my life one way for a time, and then things shift as schedules change and life gets switched around for a time. I want to be fair to all involved and many times wish there was more than one of me.

I think that is a good definition of primary. I re-arrange my life to be with my primary, altho it seems like I spend more time with my secondary. I love them both, but it seems like maybe on different levels. I would be pretty devestated if I lost either of them, but probably more so my...

I tend to agree with this. My bf is bi and its certainly not because we don't have enough sex. He is primarily sexual with women, but he still enjoys being with a guy occasionally. And it's very sensual when he is with a guy. It's not just quick sex and that's it.

And so many complications lol.

I feel O is primary bc I base my schedule around when I am able to spend time with him. I actually spend more time with K, i don't really know how to explain it. I'm not able to have kids, so it has nothing to do with that. I love them both, and I love them differently, but O just comes first.

I love that, I think you are exactly right. We are taught from the time we are little about what the "norm" should be but thats not what works for everybody.

I'm in a complicated relationship that fits here. I am the secondary to the one I am primary. And I am primary to the one who is my secondary. It all seems kind of backwards, and if I let myself think about it, it kinda makes my head spin. But it works this way, and I know it could only work...

There are alot of factors involved. Hes nearly 25 years my senior. We have talked about it and we both feel that eventually something will change. We know its not forever but will take things as they are for now.

I'm dealing with this some myself. I am happy with the poly relationship that I currently in, altho it is extremely complicated. However, I see it as inevitable that my primary relationship will someday end. I don't know if this is a type of relationship that I wll wish to pursue again with my...

Bookworm Hi, I am 38 years old worman and in a very complicated relationship. I have 2 bf, my primary is considerably older, and married making me his secondary. My secondary is 40 and is bi. I am his primary and he has a guy that he sees occasionally. I am also bi curious and have been talking...

It is pretty fulfilling, but sometimes its a bit exhausting. :p There are times when I don't think theres enough of me to go around lol

Thanks, its what a friend of mine calls me. :o And its pretty accurate cuz I usually have a book wherever I am. :p

Hi, I was introduced to this forum after someone had mentioned it on another site I am on, shybi, and thought it would be a place for me to look into. I am 38, female, and part of a very complicated relationship. I currently have 2 bf, one who is married and one who is not. The married bf is my...