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Okay so I'm not new to poly but right now I'm facing something new and I'm not sure what to do. I've been living in a triad for over a year and the three of us have been together for over two. I have been partners with the male half of my triad (Jack) for six years. And Jack and Jill (the other...

That's great. But what does sticking it out look like to you? How did friends stay close? Were there ways that they felt to present? What made you feel like they were there for you? I want to be clear that I really want them to have kids I just don't know how to best support them. And I know I...

I'm horribly dyslexic spelling is something that doesn't come to me very easily. I'm in an MFA writing program and I need my boyfriend and girlfriend to check my spelling before I turn anything in. I know you are just trying to be helpful but it feels condescending because even if I wasn't...

Hi! I’m in a happy triad with my boyfriend and girlfriend and recently I fell completely in love with a long term friend who up to that point had been monogamous. I’ll call him Dave. Dave’s wife is a very close friend and they have been friends with my boyfriend and I for about three years...

Maybe everyone is being a little harsh. I mean I agree with them mostly. But that doesn't mean you can't have a healthy relationship with your girlfriend. But in order for that to work you need to sit down and have a long conversation about new ground rules. She might not know how badly she is...

I'm sorry can you clarify what you mean? Did a condom break? Has she taken a pregnancy test? What does Dh being out of town have to do with it? In the end you or Dh don't have a say. It's up to her. You can tell her what your scared of. You can tell her how you think it will make you feel...

My boyfriend and I didn't set out to have a mutual girlfriend. Maybe that's why it worked. In fact when my boyfriend and I started dating I was just getting out of a relationship with a couple that ended really badly. I felt awful about the idea of someone dating me to be with my boyfriend the...

So in my last post I talked about my ex boyfriend and his wife who didn’t like me. I don’t want to go back over all the details but a couple of weeks back my ex called me and told me his wife was telling him that they needed to have an open relationship because she wasn’t interested in...

That is a great idea! Thank you so much! I will do that. Sometimes I feel silly for not seeing options that are right in front of me.

I have thought long and hard about contacting her. And I think if my ex and I where still communicating I would try it. I'm worried if I contact her now she will think it's just so she will say we can talk again. My ex told me she's really disliked me from the first time we met. I sort of...

I dated my ex for two years back I high school. We broke up when I went to college but continued to sleep together for about four years when we were both single. He is a good friend and has met both of my partners and like them a lot. He is married and in a monogamous relationship. His wife...

I had the same issues with mono relationships in the past. I'm just happy my issue isn't making it so both my partner and I can't have sex. All three of us still get to have sex and it is really so much better this way.

Thank you so much CielDuMatin. I think your right maybe I should talk to people outside the poly world. My issues with sex don't seem to be issues with poly so maybe I don't need someone who is active in the lifestyle to talk to. MonoVCPHG, casual sex and one night stands are easy for me. I...

Okay so you have an idea where I am coming from my male partner of 4 years has HSV2 and I decided to have unprotected sex with him. In 4 years I have never contracted it, but just having sex with him I warn all my other partners that it is possible that I have it (I do get tested every six month...

I very much want to be in a better place about sex. I believe I can be, I just don’t know how. I’m trying to find a therapist but I’m sort of scared of that. I feel like this is an issue that is going to cause a lot of pain and hard times before it gets better and I haven’t done my best to...

Not sure what to do about wanting support but not needing it. So my girlfriend is in town and so far it has been really wonderful. My boyfriend and I road tripped down to pick her up and we spent a lovely week traveling and just being together. But now we are back in my city and I have to go to...

Yes. But... hmmm. Well she is already dating this other woman. They have been dating for months and they live in the same city while my boyfriend and I do not. I am addressing my feelings but my dislike of this woman isn't enough for me to ask that my girlfriend stops dating her. I don't know...

Sorry if I wasn’t clear, I very much feel like I want to be close to all of my partner’s partners. I want us all to be like family. I’m not into the everyone has to be in love with each other or everyone has to be sleeping with each other I just want us all to be family. And my partners are on...

I would say that in our group relationship it is VERY important that everyone can be family. Not everyone we have sex with, but anyone that my partners are going to be in a real relationship with I want to at very least like them and want to spend time with them. I guess getting the base of...

Hi! So I’ve been in non-monogamous relationships for about 6 years now. And I happily live in an open triad. We are temporally long distance but hope to be moving in together this summer. Some history, I’ve been with my boyfriend for over four years and with my girlfriend for about two. We all...