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All terrible things must come to an end... Thanks all for your advice and info. Brody and I had a talk last night and he agreed to cut off contact with Emma. Both he and she agreed they wouldn't be okay with "just friends," and especially with a more distant friendship. This is all I could...

Ha, okay, I wasn't sure if I was going to write one, because it was SO weird, but how can I not after that smiley-face? (Sorry about the triggering, BlackUnicorn!) For anyone who wants to know the weird next step in this drama-saga, after work yesterday I went to a nearby coffee shop to meet...

Ah, a quick point of clarification, maybe. We hadn't even finished a discussion on being poly when this happened. We had just started the, "So, what do you think?" discussions. He is VERY much about the way you think of it, polyq4 -- I actually do feel that, if we say that we won't do X, Y...

Okay, I feel the need to give Brody a SLIGHT defense. The sleeping with her without talking to me, in my humble opinion, WAS a violation of trust, but not on a level it might be with many relationships. When he told me, I didn't get upset or start crying. I did respond with some anger-- "Excuse...

Not to get all grade-school about it, but it's not the size of the equipment, but how you use it. Plus fingers. Plus tongue. And everything else. Just from my perspective, but I personally wouldn't see it as a problem IF you and your wife have a satisfying sex life. But that's an important IF.

Yes, thus his willingness to (for all intents and purposes) end the romantic side of the relationship. But (bit of detail I left out) Emma moved to our city to be closer to us/for this relationship, and he promised to support her before she did, so he feels responsibility and like he can't be...

Whew! Your responses have really helped me feel less crazy and like my concerns are much more reasonable. I talked with Brody a bit more about it. He personally says he's trying the "teach to fish" method. However, Emma is awfully clingy with him, and he can only do so much. He also wanted me...

Thanks for your reply, NovemberRain! Honestly, if you had asked me half a year ago, before this all started, I would have said my marriage was pretty much the most solid thing ever. We've known each other and been partners/best friends for 8 years. I think that's what makes this all so weird...

Hi, everyone. I've been lurking for a bit. A lot of the discussions about other's relationships have helped me. However, I feel like my "problems" have enough drama and uniqueness that I'd love your advice. First of all, my spouse Brody has been rather interested in polyamory for a while, but...