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I just wanted to send you a personal message about how much your post meant to me (about the lack of emotional connectivity from Y). I've been doing a lot of thinking lately and your post really spoke to me on a number of levels...and I needed to hear from someone who had gone through what I'm...

Had a talk with hubby. Didn't cover every little aspect, but the focus was primarily on improving sexual and emotional connectivity. Y heavily suspects something is up with me regarding E, but he chose not to push it, and I guess I chose not to bring it up. I wonder if that was right or not...

Ooookay new development...... I didn't really go into many details on it but almost three weeks ago I wrote Y a significant letter about issues we needed to work on. Primarily reducing his porn viewing and trying to increase the romance in our lives. I poured my heart into this letter...

Several seem to be concerned about the communication frequency. Yes, 4-5 times is not enough, though I was thinking of the more serious talks. The talks where I told him this is seriously hurting me and could be an incompatibility problem. As far as communicating otherwise, I've done some of...

@wildflowers: It's not been easy, but I've been trying hard to do the right thing. I think E deserves some credit for holding back too. It's odd to hear from others not to beat myself up...I feel very inherently wrong for feeling all these various things. Hate myself even. For feeling Y...

Sorry, missed your post AnnabelMore! Thanks for responding. ^_^ LMAO...he HATES the idea of penises. I tried playfully suggesting three-ways and have been shot down more or less on the basis that the other guy would turn him off. Unless he is a complete closet gay, ha ha. I doubt it...

Wow, this is amazing input so far! I seriously needed this. @ dingedheart: I agree that adding someone else while a marriage is troubled is not a recipe for good things. I've been trying so hard to work on things with Y partly because if I really wanted polyamory a healthier relationship...

Y saw the letter the next day, and he did up his game that one day. We had some pretty hot love-making. And he's reduced the porn usage, but his reluctance to have intercourse with me due to some reason or another was back before you knew it, so I'm sad to say that the porn usage doesn't seem...

I started to have some pretty intense feelings for E, so for the first time I revealed my crush and relationship issues to a close friend of mine we'll call D. I told D I was freaked out about having feelings for someone else, and D encourages me to write a letter to Y talking about our...

I imagine many posters here have had many experiences to draw from. I never really considered polyamory until just last summer. And the idea has been haunting me since. What I need help with is sorting my emotions out, as I'm too entrenched into my current situation to even think very...