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Seems like it's for real. Dr is a prof at a respected university and the study was published in a peer-reviewed journal and followed up.

@ SchroedingersCat: While it’s good that you have a forum to explore your feelings and It’s a bit of a puzzle to me why you’re seeking advice on a polyamory site. You’re not polyamorous and it’s clear that you husband’s not either, nor are you down for it if he were. By your statements...

At least for women, it seems. There's a Dr. Gallup (no relation to the pollster) at SUNY who did a study on the effect of semen on mood. A larger followup study duplicated the results. "The finding that women who do not use condoms during sex are less depressed and less likely to attempt...

Problem Pregnancy is a possibility but stress as well as drugs can cause you to be late on your period so don't get stressed out until you confirm it with a pregnancy test. If you're a week late you will be about two weeks pregnant if you are, and a test should tell you something. From what...

I don't believe in carrying on tit-for-tat arguments on forums or allowing posts to degenerate into criticisms of the responders, so @lapwing: There are as many bits of advice as there are different kinds of people with all their experiences. If you find any of my advice helpful I'm happy to...

I'd say don't force it. When the time comes that you meet someone you feel attracted to and want to have sex with, that's the time to exercise your option of having another relationship in your life. It's more a matter of meeting the person and having the freedom than anything else.

I'm worried about your saying he loves you and only you. With sexual attraction comes a certain amount of love. I think if you have sex on many occasions with a person you can't help but love them some, or more. Maybe you can come to terms with the terms that he can love her, and you, too. We...

Hi, Sugar. Remember the -amory part. It's about love and welcoming another person into your marriage, not about fucking around.

Second that! You're about to embark on the scariest and potentially the most rewarding period of your life. Welcoming a third person into your relationship is a big step so be as picky as you would in choosing your primary partner. And with dating, it's going to be a selection process with all...

Well, you're not crazy. You're in the place a lot of couples are who realize they need another person in their relationship. You're just being honest about it, and that's a very good thing. Yes, I agree with you that you need someone to be a part of your relationship with your husband and not a...

I can understand what you're going through. I'm in kind of a similar situation as my fiancee still sees her former lover that she's had on and off since high school, and whom she sees once or twice a month. Like your situation, the FWB is a very good friend of ours. I went into the relationship...

No I'm not suggesting you fuck around in somebody else's relationship. Yes, that's a bad idea. I meant that you should be close enough to at least one of them to talk about a loving relationship with them. Are you close enough to one to let some affection lead talking about how you feel about...

@ lapwing: That's the thing to do. An honest conversation is a must with every involved, except maybe current bf is he's soon to be out of the picture. Have you slept with either of the couple? I think that would be a requisite before you begin. It seems to me it's premature to count on being...

Hi, This is obviously eating you up and it will ruin your relationship if you don't do something about it. You know already that he could have already moved on to another person and he's not so much polyamorous as polysexual. I think you need to have a sit down talk with the two of them and say...

I recommend a 3-way conversation. Not to place blame or vent, but to establish ground rules that she agrees on, too. In front of you. In my relationship, it never would have worked if I didn't know, respect, and like my fiancee's girlfriend. I think unless you can develop that kind of openness...

You might start by asking, "How would you feel about my having two boyfriends?" and see what happens.