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I like that. We are always expected to forgive, but sometimes people's actions are beyond that.

Good point! I have felt this way at times. I ultimately love him with all my being. I do know that to be the truth. But wow, so true.

This sounds all too parallel to what my husband and I have just gone through. You can read my posts titled, "No Longer Feel Good" and "Stay and grow, or run for the hills?" if you want to know my background. Have you imagined how Sarah must be feeling? You just told her your were having an...

I agree with NYCindie. I would slow down a bit and try and figure out why the need for others. As young adults, being 21 is usually a natural time to explore, to find yourself, to grow and become the person you are going to become. Really communicate and try and understand your desires behind...

Good morning FlameKat, Magdlyn, SNeacail, Redpepper, and Black Unicorn. I hope you all had a restful night. :) Yeah, what happened is sad. I wonder if Bo was having issues of his own trying to adjust to it all? He seemed to have been running, or maybe just not knowledgeable about it. He just...

FlameKat, you are so right. I am mourning the loss of my husband, or at least the man I thought I married. At the same time, I am happy I know now, because we know each other and have a much stronger connection. :) I hope when I am done mourning, a greater love emerges from within me for him...

Redpepper, first, I want to apologize in advance. My anger is not directed to you at all. I hope you understand. I will NEVER respect their betrayal-relationship. :mad: If they need/want alone time, they can have it. They are two grown people. I can't stop them. But they will NEVER have my...

What you are sharing, although is not exactly what I am feeling and going through, it is somewhat parallel. Do you believe that if you disconnect from her completely and she be involved with him on their own, that would help??....I guess what you can't see won't hurt you? Or do you find comfort...

My husband Bo recently asked for an open marriage after admitting he had a mistress (call her Bess). I am working on forgiving him, and have agreed to working towards a poly relationship with his mistress/secondary. I am deeply hurt. I manage to push it away and forget about it, but it comes...

Thank you for your love and the words of wise advice. I will take them

I just wanted you all to know that I really appreciate your support, understanding, and insight. I am in a horrible place right now. :( I am going through what BlackUnicorn says. I am nursing bitterness (taking a slow and painful killing poison myself, while praying someone else dies from...

I hope this reply doesn't upset you. I am struggling with the man I love. I am monogamous and I crave the monogamy back. I am so angry and bitter about this whole situation we are in. I don't know if you gave him monogamy in the beginning and now that he is in love with you, you have switched...

Hello All! I am Mahogany's husband, Bo. As long as I have had an interest in women, there have always been two. My main woman, in this case, is my wife, and the other woman is Bess. Throughout life, my gf always knew about my main woman, but never the other way around. About a month and a...

The other point of view to no longer feeling good Yes, Redpepper. He actually plans to post this evening. I am really looking forward to all your replies to his post, not because I expect you to attack him, but because I genuinely love him and want to protect our love/connection. If we are...

Thank you all for your time and replies. You have given me a lot to think about. I do feel he is selfish. Even Bess has said that. But he is loving, as well. Weird how he can be both. I am not happy doing this, but I am willing to stay in it and try to heal. But the relationship I have with...

Hello, It has been about 6 weeks now since my marriage has opened. My husband Bo has added a woman, Bess, to our relationship. This came to be because Bo came clean about cheating on me with her (for 5 months before I found out). Before this, we shared 4 monogamous years together. I hate...

Hi, I posted a couple of days ago seeking advice...information...help from anyone and anything. I was desperate. My husband and I have been married for 4 years now...just this month he admitted to cheating with another woman....for the first few days after that he explained that he still...

Thank you all so very much for your support and wisdom....I plan to pay-it-forward in the near future :) My husband is so loving and accepting and re-assuring that I sincerely believe I will be ok :)

I KNOW it is going hurt because of my fears... He has re-assured me, over-and-over again.....but he is only human... 3. I am afraid of losing him, plan and simple...if I can trust that that will never happen (because of his relationship with her) than I could change my view. 4. I am afraid...

My husband and I have been married for 4 years. Just 1 week ago, he came to me explaining that he is a poly by nature. Now he didn't say that exactly, and in fact, he didn't know what it was or what it was called. The other woman looked it up and help us learn that it is poly...which led me...