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I hope your relationship continues to improve. Based on everything that you've said here, you've been a saint to stay with your spouse! I hope you're able to stay strong while she gets better; it sounds like you want to save your marriage, and after 15 years of commitment, I can understand why...

"Secretary of Defense Leon Panetta announced that the Obama administration would allow women to be placed in positions that will expose them more directly to fighting with enemy ground forces. It is said that this will allow women to fill hundreds of thousands of combat roles from which they are...

It's not always easy to stand up against someone who's been living in a place longer then you have. It's as if you're lower down on the pecking order because you came last, and maybe that's what gives June the imaginary belief that she can boss you around. What Gala Girl said about the broken...

Business owner and professional, clean cut, gym-nut, beach-goer. You wouldn't think I'm anything out of the ordinary if you saw me on the street.

My post is about how humans form judgements, and specifically how individuals inherit judgements from groups. If an idea is repeated over and over again then most people will adopt that idea even in the absence of any proof. Examples: Blacks should sit at the back of the bus Women belong in the...

Is A Taste of Honey too forward for some? :D

I've excerpted parts of your post above that I want to emphasize. Right now, there is NO conscious effort to make the environment that we live in even remotely tolerant of public condemnation of abusers. We're not even close to talking about this subject as a mature society. And even those who...

No, not saying that exactly. That would imply I'm targeting you, and that's not the case. It's more about the summation of statements voicing distaste for homosexual sex. If you're an impressionable young person, forming their first opinions on sex, and all you see around you are negative...

Well, most people are conformist in most ways. And everyone is a conformist at least in some ways. Societal pressure is an incredibly powerful force. It's probably the reason why we've been so successful as species. So it's not all negative.

It's hard not to view this as coercion, Ice. Because that's kinda what it is. She fell in love, and now wants you and her lover and her wonderful life with everyone. I'm not that far off from your wife. I had an affair, was caught, was/am very apologetic. (The difference is that I broke off the...

In under a week you've started 4 threads, received thousands of positive words of feedback from over a dozen different repliers (many from some very knowledgeable people with a great understanding of life) and yet you say nothing is working for you? It's been less then a week! What did you...

Great question. I'm wondering how social pressure on males isn't seen by some as the dominant cause for this orientation? It's the single greatest difference between men and women when it comes to sexual persuasion (notice I did not say choice). Cynthia Nixon is spot on with her observation...

This needs to be blunt. People are giving you really good advice here (not just here but your other threads too). You are at a point in your life however where two things are in conflict: the only power you have is the power to change yourself only adults understand the above statement So...

I've excerpted some relevant parts of your post. You mention how intolerable it is for your lovers to have other relationships. You have linked your identity with jealousy - and this is causing some serious problems for you. Look at your words with regard to other relationship opportunities for...

If this is what you want, then you should be prepared to be open and communicative with your BF. Tell your BF everything, because he'll know if you're holding back, maybe not consciously, but at some level he'll know you're withholding information. You know your BF deserves this. But you deserve...

Reading through all these posts is like a tour through a dungeon! You don't want to live in one, but there's a perverse attraction to see what's around the next corner. With some of the weirder ones (cake-feet-carpet guy for example), I'm really curious if he's normal in real life or if he's...

There seem to be two issues going on here. One is that you think your partner needs space. The other is you feel she is not supportive of you going out and finding a poly friend/relationship. Are these things linked in some way you didn't mention? More of a background here would be useful.

That's a serious amount of resentment that you've built up! Like GG said, you've articulated your feelings loud and clear. And it seems as though you've told them about your dissatisfaction without receiving the support and reciprocation that you need. Look, I think the ball is in their court...

It sounds as though this is a really painful time for you. I hope it gets better sooner rather than later. You say that J is maxed out with intimacy with you. I'm reading that as a need to explore himself and others apart from you. It also sounds like you have talked with him in detail about...

I say "I love you" as much as I wish, and anymore then that would render it a lesser phrase. This is how it feels to me, I cannot speak to other people's points of view. Everyone is going to have their own comfort level here, and unless the phrase is completely absent from one party, I can't see...