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You've come to a good place then! There are a lot of helpful people here.

How about taking a deep breath, and tell her that you like her? She might be introverted, and sometimes shyness accompanies introversion, but finding out what she likes is a journey she should make on her own, shy or not. Knowing that you like her will force her to think about her preferences...

I'm not a big proponent of the verbal I-Love-you. Would rather show it in a thousand different ways (my motto: actions speak louder then words!). BUT, have kids, wife and dogs who want me to say it, and say it often. So I do. It's just that, as mentioned earlier in this thread, I think it's...

I'm returning to the original article and, IMHO some male gamers are jerks (and even worse then jerks) to women. Before you flame me for saying that generalisation! Please let me go on... (Digging myself a hole here I'm sure...) Male Nerds/geeks are largely uncomfortable around women (not...

Funny - I didn't see anyone on this thread write that to you (can you please direct us to to where you saw that?) And actually, the only possibly disparaging remarks I saw were those that stated that people like me weren't as adaptable (because I'm not a female bisexual). And I think you made...

So human female bisexuals: ...adapt faster...more clever....more generous? Right. well far be it from me to question that, but maybe there's an alternate explanation for men's behaviors, maybe..... Men are conforming to a model of strict social/sexual behaviour if we want to be sexually...

So really, you're becoming more uncomfortable with J's position. She can say the word to JP and you might just be history. But in all fairness, you entered the relationship under those terms, so my guess is you're changing and becoming less accepting of the terms as the relationship matures...

Is your husband's behavior disturbing you and your boyfriend? Or are you concerned about your husband, because you know he's going a bit nuts when you guys are together? That makes a bit of a difference. If it's your privacy that's important, is there any way to have sex somewhere other then...

Hi, it's nice to see you here Aquarius! And for those who picked up on it, I'm the lucky BreatheDeeply she's stuck with :)

What kind of signals are you or the hubby getting from the crush? Anything that can be seen as interest? If so, follow up on them, ask her out with you and the hubby.

This is probably a great opportunity to discuss with him the level of transparency that you expect regarding any/all contact with lovers, past, present or potential. The fact that you're unhappy about this seems to me to be a red flag. And he might not even be consciously aware that he's causing...

Is there more background you could provide? A bit of relationship history maybe? You feel you're getting the short-end of the stick being the FWB/Secondary to JP? I guess I'm not certain how all this came about and maybe it would help to get more details.

I read this line in a posting and thought it might make for an interesting topic: "All relationships come with a clock attached. Even "til death do us part" is an ending." - GalaGirl So apart from death, when relationships end, are there any differences in how they end, and the aftermath...

Do you know if you want her at your birthday yet? Or is that the dilemma?

Hi Bobcat, I'm in the same boat as you regarding being 'out' about my polyness. I'm married to Aquarius who's family is conservative. Our friends and extended family are conservative as well (I moved here from the SF Bay Area so I'm quite open about lifestyles as you might imagine). I...

Thanks Fish!

Intimacy was/is always in the context of sex for me. Direct genital contact, maybe leading to orgasm. But sex itself has always been in the context of, and aftermath of, an emotional bond formed over some time. (Yes I've thought a lot about sex just for the sake of sex, but that would have...

The article is a well-worded attack on monogamy, mainly focusing on men's perspectives and the lie, rammed down men's throats from birth to death and from every corner of society, that mutual exclusion is the only relationship form available. I found the article relevent, maybe because being a...

Thanks - it's good sense really but always good to have it reinforced.

Thank you for the welcome advice kdt! I had a feeling, based on what I read (mainly on this forum) that the poly community is a supportive and generous group of people, and you have helped confirm that. I had come across an article while researching (http://bit.ly/QoqOrW) that described a poly...