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Awesome! Superb! Thanks for asking :-) Really enjoying a fantastic summer, truly happy about how our quad is progressing after ~15mo. Poly is definitely hard work but totally worth it as long as love is the tie that binds. ~S

Thanks very much... you've been a great help! ~S

Thanks BB. It's an interesting subject. Ok so here is an observation... Both families hang out "a lot" together. Every other day for the most part (we're neighbours) and we do virtually everything together. The other couple and their children are already considered family in our home and...

Haha... well, I guess it doesn't much matter to me what your intention was. I was looking for perspective... and I got just that! So thank you. I find that this lifestyle makes me continually look around and re-evaluate myself. Most of the time its "Hell Ya" this feels right. Sometimes...

Wow! Well said... The past 14 months has been quite a journey but mostly from a personal nature. We have blazed our trail right from the start, why would we want to jump on the beaten path now? Being true to ourselves is where this whole thing started. Thank you for your sage advice. ~S

I know the debate around children is nothing new here. Let me separate it in two separate groups: 1) Coming out to your children; 2) Coming out to your close family/friends. For many reasons including professional ones, we are simply not ready to come out to our family & friends although we...

Thanks for your reply LR. Well I completely agree. I don't like having to lie either so after a convo with my wife we are going to change our approach with our kids. Its really impossible for us to be "out of the closet" with anyone else for professional reasons. So far we have been able to...

Hey there, I would like to get some advice from you smart folks in here. I will "try" to make this short :-) First a bit about me. I am 25% of a closed quad. My wife and I live next door to the other couple (which rocks). We have been couple dating each other for a little over a year now...

What an engaging discussion... love the spirited opinions. To be honest I totally understand. I was 22 yrs old until I had sex the first time, to whom eventually become my wife. I wanted to wait until I found "the one" as well and I was lucky it happened the way I had planned. Out of all...

I am part of a quad for 1 year now. I have actually never had a problem with the knowledge that my wife is with the other husband... it totally turns me on. After playfulness is over she always has a big smile on her face. I always ask the same question "did you have fun?". Seeing her face...

Congrats! Enjoy your journey.

I can certainly relate to being fearful of a poly life vs a monogamous one. I think that is the primary reason why I am here reading posts and learning from everyone else. I would assume your partner is probably far more fearful than you may be. That mono programming is really hard to...

Thanks, Marcus. If poly is defined as multiple loves, I suppose our closed quad arrangement applies. I am still very new to all this... Never had I thought a lifestyle like this was even possible in our marriage. It is wonderful, supportive and fulfilling in every way. IMO, it requires far...

pigola ossuary Never tried swinging although I have on occasion, "suggested" that it would be fun to try. My wife and I were in a very happy monogamous marriage for the past 13 years until this time last year when something magical and unexpected happened (copious wine + hot tub) with...

Hi animo, Yes Quads do seem rare indeed. I find myself searching very hard on this forum for others in the same situation as my own. I am part of a closed Quad. Our group is somewhat unique I think. Both couples are originally monogamous with no one having any experience in polyamory...

A bit late to the party on this thread... I am part of a quad which has been together for almost a years now. It all started as best of friends (neighbors) for several years before we stumbled into this lifestyle completely be accident. Both couples are happily married with children for many...

GalaGirl... thanks very much for this. This is really good stuff. I believe that you are absolutely right, she does feel that she has lost something. Some days are great and some days she gets "concerned". I am trying to sort out my reactions to it as well. I have learned the hard way that...

Wonderful advice! I have being doing a few of those suggestions ideas already but clearly there is room for improvement! ;)

Newbie to this forum and a newbie to the poly world :D. I am a male and part of a quad. I have been married for almost 20 years now... we are very close, very happy. A year ago my wife and I got into full swapping with another couple whom we have been very close friends with for many years...

a beautiful thing I am also part of a quad. As couples our friendships started as neighbors, then friends, then best friends, then we hung out together all the time. Last year something happened no one expected and since its has been a blur. Both marriages solidly monogamous and now... not...