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Oh, then I experience jealousy, by that definition. Ever see a really incompetent doctor? Sparks my jealousy every single freakin' time. Should have gone to med school. In relationships, I sometimes find myself thinking, "Maybe this isn't the best kind of relationship for my partner," when...

I never said I had all the answers. Being polyamorous is just another label for my practice of getting romantically involved with more than one person. Basing our happiness on the feelings of other people, and the number of people around us, is a dangerous practice. You can't control other...

Why are you crying? She stated her opinion. You responded by preaching at her (poorly) and implying she was a brainwashed moron. Being polyamorous is not anything like being GLBTQ. It hardly makes you special. If I had one partner for the rest of eternity, I'd be fine. If I had none, I'd...

I'm a touchy feely person, but to me, there's something barbaric about going into a room full of people with the intention of snuggling with them. It's like showing up to a lobster restaurant already wearing a bib.

You're upset he only contacts you when his other lover is busy. Is he supposed to contact you when he's with them? If so, do you want him on the phone with them when he's with you? I'm going to a party tonight with my partner, D. There is no way I'll check my messages when I'm with him...

You're dating an adult man who lives with his mother and doesn't own a vehicle. I wouldn't sweat the "other woman" deal. I'd just drop him like a hot potato and move on.

He's not morally obligated to love you. If you don't like how he handles stuff, stop having sex with him. Also, out of curiosity: Is it so unusual when you're with one lover to not contact the other? This has been my own M.O. for years.

People who sleep with men are at a tactical advantage for more sexual experiences. I'm assuming you're talking about starting relationships with women, since that tends to be infinitely harder. Did you have a hard time dating as a single person?

With that many people, it's bound to look weird living in a house together if you're past college age. I'm a believer in one major life change at a time. You can start a new relationship dynamic, end an old one, change a living situation, change a job, start or quit school, buy or sell a...

Being in an open relationship, or any type of relationship, does not make a person "him/herself." Relationships do not define us, or they shouldn't. Has she explained why this makes her feel so guilty? A poly person isn't more or less poly based on a number of partners. Are you lonely...

Apparently, Rain didn't think it was terribly funny or hasn't read my other posts.

I just started dating a couple with children that are roughly the same age. I think it's up to poly people to make good decisions about their sexual presentation and behavior. Every text you send, you have to think of it in terms of, "If Martha asks her 80 year old grandma or her 10 year old...

well me and my friends dont think its a problem

I'm a very sexual person, but I don't constantly molest people. High testosterone might affect acne and aggression, but it wouldn't make you grope people more when others say, "Cut the crap." It does sound like your husband may be a sex addict, however, and is just crazily seeking a...

Dan's also known for saying racist, transphobic crap and blaming rape victims. He's not precisely a fountain of wisdom. If your partner has cancer, skip the Savage Love column and try a support group. It's nothing new. ETA: Tonberry, I wasn't snipping at you; I just REALLY don't like Dan's...

Oh, duh. Pardon me. Mornings are not my time. I speak no Portugese, so I won't be critical. :P I thought maybe a partner was trans, which does change things. It doesn't offend me, but I was struggling to understand your unique situation. I think I may grasp it a little better now. (Maybe...

I don't speak for everyone, but the majority of people are cisgendered, and I've never seen the word outside of the context of trans issues. (No, the majority of people here are not made uncomfortable by trans issues.) How old are you?

I have two tattoos - I have a cherry blossom on my right thigh, and a stanza of Tengwar on my left ribcage that extends to my back. I plan to get another tattoo, a B&W of Sharon Needles, at the end of the summer. :) I just wear one earring in each ear, but I used to have my navel pierced...

I won't be friends with someone who's cheating, let alone date them.

Is the cisgendered thing important for a reason I'm missing? A relationship with a couple is actually three relationships: A relationship with each partner, and then your relationship with the couple. I'd suggest going out and just saying what's on your mind - If one or both says they're...