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Maybe you need to work on building the romance in your marriage. If you feel good about that relationship, I guarantee empathy and compersion becomes easier. You share more fiduciary type stuff with your husband. In a sense, he's probably always going to be more important. But surrendering...

Congrats! You are confirmed for being a sentient being. It happens. I've had a partner now romantically for a few months - He's had a girlfriend for a year. From her behavior, I assume she's very jealous. (Can't really have a conversation with her to confirm or deny. She's turned down a...

I'm wondering if your husband has undergone some personality changes? It's highly abnormal to say, "You do ____ better than Martha." It sounds like he's acting very impulsively, that he has a lot of anger, and is not "himself." Has he always acted impulsively and had anger issues? How long...

You absolutely can be happy again, and you can be happy with your husband - Whether that's a mono relationship, a poly one, or whatever. I love being a poly person. I have a great poly partner, and today went on a great date with a couple. And that's a luxury. It's not a need. Not dating...

The Na are a fascinating group, though I didn't know much beyond a little paragraph in a child psychology book from [edit] years ago. I don't think being focused either on biological mothers or fathers is primitive or bad - Heck, I'd like a biological child. Adoption is also hard, especially...

I think I was unaware of the emotional charge behind "primary," and I appreciate your patience. I don't think of the person I'd share the electric bill with as a person more worthy of my affections - Many of my non-sexual relationships are deep and rewarding, but I'd murder the folks if I had...

They're a ker-razy couple who formed a cult - They'd beat members with razor wire for having conversations that weren't high brow enough - They restricted sex, had "box checks" for women before sex, had "road warriors" who harassed hot women at concerts to get new members... Basically, it was...

I'll be sure to remind every tomcat I see. :rolleyes: Sure, you can love a child with whom you share not a speck of DNA. However, there's a real biological drive behind spreading your own genes. That, and no one likes being fooled.

Anyone else think of Wulf and Arol Zendik at RP's cult mention? No? Well, at least I was amused. I still think of "primary" as someone you live with and split the bills with... And I admit, I think of the person I split the water bill with as more important. It's an ugly, capitalistic view...

I think you're either sexually attracted to someone or not, and anything else is merely an attempt to obfuscate or avoid the real issue. You can be attracted, but incompatible, sexually speaking. Long term sexual relationships are a lot of work. www.sexuality.org is a great informational...

The best way to feel alive is through living. You seem like a very extroverted lady, and if this person nurtures you and makes you feel good, by all means, enjoy it. Obviously he sees you as a wonderful person who is worth being with despite your time commitments. That's a pretty good...

You have a relationship with an individual, not with a group of two or more. No one likes feeling like they once fulfilled all your needs and now they're old news. Before you add partners, entertain working on your marriage and seeing her needs are fulfilled. The time to look for new...

Understandable - Some things you just have to eat the cost. Take care of yourselves; you're both in my thoughts.

Awesome news, Kyle! Have you looked into sliding scale therapy? Sometimes even your physicians are willing to further help if they have a psychiatrist/psychologist/counselor friend.

Right away, I guess. I usually tell people right away about my friend I see about once a month, who's kind of like an occasional boyfriend, that I have no primary, and I don't date a lot. That's when I wait for people to tell me about their dating situation. I'm fortunate to meet mostly good...

I hope so. Otherwise I've cashed in all my love on this stupid house cat I have. D:

The sort of HPV that is known to cause cervical cancer is not the skin to skin type - That's the kind that causes warts, which you can commonly get from frogs. I'd go to another doc, as the other user suggested, and have them specify the type.

It doesn't sound so much like envy as you want some attention. You just have to first tell your partner what you need. Then he has to agree or disagree. If he disagrees and won't give you what you need, you have to bounce. And you have to be ready for that. I'm sorry it's not easier.

Nope. Some people really aren't poly, or bi, or pansexual, or whatever. Doesn't make us awful or more enlightened. Some people don't experience romantic feelings for more than one person in an entire lifetime, and I've known two people like that personally.

My work week starts tomorrow morning - I have to go over and wake my dad up as well, so I'll be getting up at 3AM instead of 3:30. It's been a busy couple of days off and my face has taken a ton of punishment: I've had a chemical peel and a wisdom tooth removed. I really want this stupid...