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RedPepper, it does help, thank you. I'm intrigued, confused and curious about this way of living and loving... I never realised it had a label and its own jargon, let alone a community. I will be patient. When I reached a breaking point in my relationship (and with myself), it all came out in...

Hi NYCIndie, nice to meet you. :) I began a relationship with G before I split with T. At the time, I was deeply, deeply unhappy in my marriage and yes - instead of communicating and being open, I hid, cheated and lied and found what I needed with another man. There is no justification for...

Thank you RP. I understand what you suggest about independence... I'm already doing that on my side. I'm living away from home, developing my own social life, and doing a few things I've wanted to do for years. He's also talking about things he wants to do. I do realise this will all take...

Thanks MonoVCPHG. I'm sure you're right, which sadly just makes me think that this is all too impossible to even consider. T will not go to a counsellor. Or at least, the answer the last 20 times I brought it up was an emphatic no. I certainly don't want to force him into anything or give my...

Dear Mari, I'm new here too and on the other side of the fence in that I'm looking for advice on how to broach the subject of poly with my mono husband.... Just thought I'd say a couple of things though..... I can relate to your insecurity and self-esteem issues... my husband also has very...

I think I'm working up the courage to bring up the subject of poly with my husband... who, as far as I know, has and always will be completely mono and completely devoted to me. That used to be partly down to (co)dependency; but we're slowly dealing with that. This forum is amazing, and I'd...

Hi Tosca, I'll be very interested to follow your progress! My partner T and I are in a similar situation.... living abroad, working together, money stress, which definitely puts a strain on the relationship and helps to kill romance and spontaneity... especially if you don't work at it...

Bitterborn, I've just started reading the blogs and life stories and naturally went to yours since you were the first (only one so far) to welcome me here with some encouraging words. Wow...... to add my praise to others'.... you are a wonderful writer... your words moved me to tears a couple...

Thank you bitterborn. I know it won't be easy but I hope it's possible.... anything is possible, right?! I'll definitely read the blogs and life stories and look forward to finding out more about how others have handled this. I've always thought it was completely possible to love more than one...

Hi everyone, I'm glad to find this friendly forum and hope to benefit from the wisdom of those who've already explored the thoughts I'm currently having... I'd never heard of poly until my therapist asked one day if my fantasy was a polyamorous relationship..... and as soon as she explained...