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Isn't that funny, my DH says he gets no thrill out of watching and participating (although in the old days after enough tequila I beg to differ...) and that's fine but, lol, that is a huge turn on!! For me, anyway. I do think you could go nuts in your head not being there but if she's having a...

My husband and I have been together, like, forever. Okay, 16 years. Since I was 20 and he was 35. I picked him up. ;) I guess I was always a little precocious. We met in the small town I grew up in and he lived in for 15 years, but moved back to the midwest where he's got a 'sprawl' and i got my...

I know that this would be a huge one for my partner... big hugs. It's so helpful to 'hear' you guys talking this out.

To understand my beliefs. Then to figure out how to work together in a way that is satisfactory for us both. Well, when I worked in town and if I went out after work, it would not be uncommon for me to stay out until the wee hours. Occasionally return home in the am. And I was out with men...

Well, yes, of course. I have seen infidelity my whole life- but never heard of polyamory. Perhaps if a positive model (knowledge and consent with all partners) were more known, lying and cheating could be more avoided. That's all I was clumsily saying. ;) Oh, we've been together 16 years...

Yes, I agree and thank you for restating. I wasn't trying to condone cheating... Just saying 'affairs' are out there so much perhaps being up front and honest is a better model. :) Yes, he was positive intent. Just not his fancy. But also something he has not seen a positive model of. His...

Yes, the responses here are lovely. I'm in a similar situation to the OP (evad) in that I am interested in continuing and deepening a relationship (a person who we both know and love, but as both men are straight the sexual desire is just me) ;) and it's so helpful to hear about how others...

Talking about poly with longtime partner I'm still very new here, and I found this forum during my quest for how to help my husband understand my orientation towards, you know, life, the universe, and everything. In my heart, I do believe that you can love more than one person at once. Life is...

I generally like the tone used on this forum when giving direction/advice to others.... the level of frank discussion one needs to engage in poly relationships is one of the best aspects of the poly way, in my humble opinion.

Lol, I almost said that but wondered if I was too new to use the jargon! ;)

Hugs!! No amazing words of advice, just wanted to offer support.

:) Sounds fun. I know what you mean about the sex... and the falling in love. I think the falling in love part it what makes it hard. It's amazing and the drive is so so strong and also hard to stop!! My husband's best friend and I fell for each other this winter. It's a story of its own (I'll...

I understand where you are coming from!! I am struggling with a similar thing right now. Hugs, I think the tough part (well for me, anyway) is being direct with my partner on my views and how they could affect us and then dealing with a love interest at the same time. Also difficult is...

I love this: Trust bravely. Love boldly. Risk with calculation. Be open to new experiences. Be strong in the face of your insecurity. Dare to grab for the life you want. Meet exciting people. BE an exciting person. Build valuable relationships. Share intimacy.

Thank you! :) Yes, I've followed your threads and we are in similar situations. Because of course there is a situation, but I thought I'd do the introduction before the unload! :lol

Hello, I've been lurking for awhile but I *think* this is where I belong. How did we ever get by without forums?! :) I've found the threads and tone of discussion here generally helpful, so I thought I'd introduce myself. I have a longtime partner (married) with children. We've never been very...