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I sent you a PM, NightDragon. I feel for you SO HARD right now. I totally understand where you're coming from, and I hope everything works out. It's fucked that DB would give you is word and back out. Eff that. I'm so sorry.

HMA is an ISTP. I'm an "INXP". These tests are creepily accurate. lol I don't know how much anyone has looked into the types, or how they work. I sit right between INFP and INTP. When I had my full evaluation done in a class several years back, I was described as an INXP by the assessor. It...

It sounds like you and I had/have a lot of the same issues. Seriously, bro. You have no idea. Or maybe you do, I dunno. If you need someone to talk to, HMA and I are nearby. I was lucky, I guess. I get to work through my feelings on my own time, now that Anne is gone. I'm so sorry you're stuck...

It's a really fucked up situation. She was really good at the manipulation. I'm trying really hard not to justify my fears because of how this ended up. It's hard. I'll probably look for a girl sooner or later. I need time to heal first, and HMA and I need time to work on our relationship...

I figured I'd pop in here and give a little more detail. I don't know how much HMA is going to be around. TO make a very long story short, Anne came to us a few days ago and said that she felt a need to "pull back" and "take things slower". Upon further conversation, I got it out of her that...

I didn't mean to go off like that. That whole "Brain study" is a really touchy subject for me, and I was REALLY on edge when I wrote that last night. It's been a rough couple of days. Weeks, really. I'm really sorry - hope I didn't offend you. And hey, if we understand one another - if you ever...

No needs to duck, sea. lol I just have to point out that this is one of my pet peeves. I did a lot of study on exactly what parts of the brain aren't fully developed - because it was something that my older partners often pulled on me when I would say or do something they deemed immature or...

You missed my point, I think. lol But it's moot anyway. I'm glad you guys were able to have a nice date. Those are wonderful. There's so much drama in my life with HMA and Anne, it's AWESOME when any two of us, or all three of us can just get together and enjoy one another's company without...

There's a really big difference between being "friends for now" because you have work to do, and other things to attend to that just make being in another relationship too hard at the moment, and being FRIENDS - whether for now, or forever or any length of time inbetween because you're...

This is very much how I feel. I don't think that my ring is my ENTIRE MARRIAGE at all. I am, however, HUGE on symbolism. In fact, the idea of getting 3 rings for HMA, Anne, and I to wear was MY idea in the first place! It was a SYMBOL of our commitment to one another. It doesn't even have to be...

I really admire the relationship you have, redpepper. :p I really do.

And see, let's take Anne for example. She wants kids, I don't. Why should I have the support of the legal system when I don't want kids and she does? To be fair, she should get that support. But, to be fair to ME - I was here first, and he asked me to marry him first. I can consider her...

I think the same thing, basically. I just needed to rant, I guess. lol Interested to see what other members may have to say, if they care to comment.

I think my point with over-emphasizing the "equality" got missed a little. The kids thing was just a way of illustrating how freaking retarded this has gotten. FAIRNESS is more what I'm going for. But that still begs the question - no matter how I feel, is it FAIR for me to be married to HMA...

I made the decision to cut the first post - and request that if the mods want, to delete this thread. I'd seen plenty of rants on here, and that's all this was. A vent of frustration. Things have been worked out, and this thread really isn't relevant unless we want it around for the sake of...

I discovered an amazing amount about myself, like most other people have said. For me, it was more discovering things that I thought I had dealt with, such as separation anxiety and jealousy, that in reality I'd just buried. Opening to poly made me confront those things head-on, and I'm still...

Have ya'll talked about a compromise? Jools said she "felt more alive" now that she was just even talking to him again. Could there be an agreement to remain friends that could actually be HELD? It would only work if you were completely trusting of one another. I don't know that I could be...

Sounds like you have your head on straight, and you know what you need to do for YOUR personal happiness. I really do wish you guys - all three of you - the best. I don't envy your situation. I ache for ya'll. :(

Welcome! There's an amazing amount of info here, and a great support system for the rough times - along with a great group of people to rejoice with you when things are going well. I wish you all the best!

What you said here resonates deeply. I think a lot of this is how HMA has been feeling toward me with everything I'm feeling toward Anne. I THINK it gets out what he's been trying to tell me the last couple weeks. If that's the case, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me get a...