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Thanks for the Simpsons link! Apparently I'm Apu, being an ENFJ... hehe. All of the jobs I've done in the past or present all fit into that category, too... interestin'! ;)

Wowzies! Thank you to all taking the time to respond! I really appreciate it. I'm such a newbie in this. I can't wait until these issues and challenges become no more, when I've gained enough confidence and experience myself to be also be able to lend a helping hand (and mind) to others who...

AJ1... thanks for the response. I agree with you, the texting etiquette is pretty poor. And I like the compromise of doing it once an hour. I might recommend that to him. It's incredibly tough for him to not react to a message on his phone, though (his own baggage of being without many friends...

I'm not sure if I'm doing this correctly, or I should've done just one reply box addressing each before me... but anywho, Galagirl: I read your response after I sent a text and had a text conversation with him. He could tell I wasn't in a great mood... and his opening this morn wasn't really...

Hey there, NYCindie. Those are wise words, indeed! Very direct and up front. I think I will let him know (in my own way) the bolded parts, which did speak to me, and what I'd like to have as a reminder that I'm his primary priority, remind him of why we're in it to win it together. And I do...

Hey, SrAh... thanks for pointing out what the other shoe is like! That's a bit helpful. And I do feel like that on occasion (convincing myself of crazy things)-- He'll be with the newbie soon enough, instead of me. Why are we moving in together, when he clearly wants to be with them instead...

My partner and I have been together for almost a year and a half, and I'll be moving in within two months. I'm not sure if it's cold feet, or my fear of abandonment, or if I'm overlooking an opportunity to take a step towards feeling compersion for my partner while letting some of my demons...

Thanks, GalaGirl... I totally agree! It's a great thing to have confirmation from others that what I'm feeling and wanting isn't way off base! :)

It went over real well... he's not as verbose as me, but after reading what I paraphrased from your post (which I completely identify with, of course) he replied with: "Very very well-put! xoxoxxxo" Thanks again!

OMG... that was brilliant and so eloquent and well-worded.... I paraphrased most of your message and sent it (as an e-mail) to my partner... hoping that he feels more comfortable sharing... and promising to lessen the dying-to-know-right-away energy I can have going... thanks so much!

My partner and I have been together for about 10 months now...we don't live together just yet but there's been talk about that (in the new year) which would be good to wait until at least a year before making the move. Yesterday, when I was at work and before to heading to his home for our...

Yes, indeed, SNeacail, the NRE will negate most of what I say... and I do agree that it probably does fall somewhere in the middle (my viewpoint and his). He's got the excitement that someone else is excited about him, wants to continue on, and I (being new to this) am apprehensive given the...

Hey there, km34... I have no doubt that you have been respectful for years, along with your husband. If you're posting on a polyamory forum, chances are you have the tools necessarily emotionally, coversationally, and experience-wise to handle (and work within) situations that some 40+ year olds...

Thanks for the responses! To address my use of the words 'new fling' and 'boy'... : I have no negative connotation in my mind on 'new fling'... It doesn't seem like an insult to me, but good to know that it can bring about a reaction from others, and that it can be perceived as negative...

Hard to focus on work, as this is still on my mind a coupla hours later... I guess what I'm most worried about is the fling is young (22) and my guy is 43. The boy demonstrated that jealousy streak a little bit... and coupled with the judgmental side that came out a little (insecurity), I...

Hoo boy. Okay, I just had the lunch with my partner and his fling, and now I'm in processing mode. Overall, it went okay. We found commonalities to talk about, I felt like we connected overall, etc. There's no interest for me in doing more with him still (I was approached first by the guy...

Hey there! Yes, I'm definitely new to all this. I've only been in this relationship for a near 8 months (my first of this nature). Your thoughts are soothing... thanks so much! I'm sure that the anticipation is worse than the actual experience. Almost like getting a shot, or drawing blood...

So, my partner wants to introduce me to his new fling, someone who he had met up with a few times already. I was a little put on the spot last night when that opportunity was brought up, and at first I said I wasn't ready. Then, thought about it... it might be a good idea to meet... The reality...

And thanks, LovingRadiance. I'm in full agreement, and all the others really do echo the same sentiment (about making sure there's not just one point person). I'm glad that my partner seems to have a better understanding of this now...

Thanks GalaGirl for your advice... this is one of the reasons why I've posted in the forum, to have my feelings, thoughts, and instincts confirmed. I appreciate the encouragement to stand up for myself to be more supported and nurtured... if I do feel uncomfortable about something, I should at...