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Thank you so much for your stories and points of view, everyone! I really appreciate them. These replies give me some hope. I'm trying not to expect anything, but it's good to know that starting dating again isn't impossible. :) Nadya, thanks for your suggestion as well. I kinda suggested...

Have you ever broken up with someone because of external reasons that have nothing to do with your feelings, connection or compatibility? For example not having enough time for the relationship, moving to another city, having a baby etc. Or have you been left for those kinds of reasons? I...

Aaw, I'm so happy to read about your happiness! :) :) This is something I can relate to, rory being transgender and being in the middle of transitioning right now. Feel free to send me a private message if you ever want to talk more about these things with someone who is in the same situation!

I went to Ash's city yesterday and him and I finally talked about our relationship a bit more. We decided to scale things back to friendship, for now at least. It started with me saying that I feel like him seeing me is adding to his stress and general unwellness. He said that's a valid concern...

Ash canceled our date again last week, but I managed to see him later in the same week at a party after which he came home with me, so we finally got some time to reconnect, talk and have sex. It had been too long and there had been quite a few disappointments from canceled dates, but I'm really...

After a lot of back and forth over schedules, I'm not seeing Ash this week, but next week instead. I hope that actually happens. I'm really looking forward to seeing him, but scheduling is super challenging between us. He has also been ill and stressed out often recently, which has led to him...

Ash is incredibly busy. I haven't seen him in a month now. I mean, obviously some of it is because of my own things, like not being in the country for 10 days. :p But a lot of it is him as well. We were supposed to see each other last weekend, but he got ill, so he had to cancel. Now we're...

Things might still be in a flux, but at the moment it seems that Hank doesn't want to take things further with rory, regardless of his feelings. Weirdly, our home life has for the most part returned to what it was before Hank started developing feelings for rory. Well I've been back home less...

I came back home yesterday. It was really good to get some space to process. I thought about my situation a lot and talked about it to a couple of people. I feel better about it now. After digging a bit deeper, I realised that my jealousy is partly rooted in entitlement. It's not easy to admit...

We don't have a rule that everyone needs to get along, but I do want to meet my metamours at least once, and I want my partners to meet each other when the time is right. I live with two of my partners, so my other partners and dates / possible partners usually meet rory and Hank quite quickly...

The three of us (me, rory and Hank) each have our own rooms. Most nights we all sleep in our own beds. If we have a platonic guest over, the guest often sleeps in mine or rory's room and me and rory sleep in the same bed on those nights. And of course if any of us has a non-platonic guest, they...

Aaw, thanks PinkPig, you made my day! :) Now I'm feeling sad for Hank. I called both rory and Hank yesterday. Rory seems to be doing fine and doesn't seem very worried about the situation. Hank on the other hand... he says he kinda regrets saying anything about his feelings for rory before he...

I've felt so many emotions in the last week that I've become somewhat numb. I've had a feeling overload and I just don't care anymore. Rory and Hank can do whatever they want, I don't have it in me to care about what they do together. I hope this lasts because I quite enjoy not caring. It's not...

I've gotten some good advice on the other thread. Some food for thought. Some perspective. I'm going to be away from home for the next 10 days. I've had a trip planned for months, so it's not like I'm running away from this situation or anything. But now that I am going while all of this is...

For reference, this is what I posted on the Poly Relationships Corner:

Hmm, good question. I want both, time and intimacy. But one of the reasons I want time is that deep and vulnerable conversations create intimacy and you need one-on-one time to have deep and vulnerable conversations. We haven’t talked about that. Do you have any suggestions how we could get...

Well this is quite worrying, but I guess I needed to hear it. I actually felt quite recently that I made some progress when it comes to mine and Hank's time problem. I even wrote in my blog here about it. It seems to ebb and flow, but it has gotten better with time. I have learned to deal with...

This is a very good point. Hank indeed isn't the type that wants to spend a bunch of time with any one person. I know this for a fact. Where I think the fear is coming from is that while I know he has time he could spend with rory that he wouldn't spend with me anyway, it would feel worse if...

Yes, us living together has been going really well, we work as a family. I guess what I worry about is whether they start calling it a relationship or not, they will most likely want to get closer and start spending more time together (well, this has already happened). That in turn means there...

So, something big has happened. I posted about it on this thread: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=76171