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Yeah, I'm totally sold on the idea. I'm positive this will fix any of the sexual issues in my relationship with my wife, and will probably help a lot with dealing with my unintentional jealousy toward any future prospective sexual partners. I already did and liked doing a lot of these things...

Oh crap. I suck at this community thing. I'm in so many communities, I forget to read the new stuff and keep up with them. :P Well, congrats, LR.

I'll give your blog a good read. I hope your kid recovers quickly and easily from whatever is at fault. I hope it's nothing *too* too serious (by nature, hospitalization, I think, denotes a certain level of seriousness).

Ok, so I was reading that link, which led me to these: http://yourbrainonporn.com/the-lazy-way-to-stay-in-love http://yourbrainonporn.com/another-way-to-make-love I hadn't thought about making it a requirement for three weeks and thereby causing a self-supporting habit. I kinda just thought...

Yeah, I was aware that's not what was being referred to, but I thought it was relevant. I'm reading the link now. Truth, that is. I just suck at life. I eventually learn, but I always complain a lot before I finally get the message. I'm sure I'll wind up there eventually, it will probably...

For me, I just don't really enjoy masturbation, so it happens quite rarely to begin with. I don't think I would be missing much by cutting out sex; it's quite hilarious, actually, because last time I was on here, I was bitching about how sex was so important to me. :rolleyes: Have I "read up on...

That's a good point. I forget that this isn't a balanced microcosm I'm seeing here. This is a fairly biased forum. I say that not in a mean way, but in the way that it's a forum centered around polyamory, rather than a forum about relationships in general. That would definitely lend weight...

Yeah, I get that. I love other people too. I guess love isn't the issue, it's the level of involvement that is implied by a romantic sexual relationship. We are a bit codependent, sure, but that's the thing. We also happen to be best friends. We like to spend time together, and lots of it...

Ok, I guess I didn't make myself clear. What I meant is that among this forum and my limited experience with polyamory, it seems like every case I see in a mono/poly relationship involves the mono having to give up their definition of relationships, love, commitment, etc. and learn to be okay...

The forum emailed me when redpepper dug up this thread, and so here I am. :P I dig what Mono is saying. From either side, it becomes an issue of control. From my side, I feel...I guess one could call it "useless," knowing that I'm not the center of my wife's world, while I make her the center...

No, I imagine the girl would be a cunt. Unless, well...you know...she had a dick. :P It's pretty much a culture-influence thing. My discomfort would largely be driven by my mind making up worries and trying to imagine how the person's partner (the one I'm not getting involved with) would be...

I can relate to it, too. I would feel like a total dick being the guy entering into a relationship with a woman who was happily married. Hell, I'd feel like a dick doing that with a woman who wasn't happy in her marriage. I just hope he gets over the awkwardness soon, because it's making it...

I totally feel your situation here. I've been in the same boat, and now that I'm in an officially-declared poly relationship, the soul-searching and work really hit me. It takes some time, some patience (with yourself above all parties involved, but all-around patience is necessary), and...

Reporting in. Haven't had internet access, and won't at home until Wednesday. Picked her up the next morning, no awkwardness, and I'm dealing with this really well. Had lots of questions, and her openness and up-front-ness helped me chill a lot. We even had him over for breakfast this...

So I drove her into the city and dropped her off at his place around 6:45, which is later than we were aiming for (I even got out of work 30 minutes early to try and keep schedule, but in the end we weren't that much later than promised). I got home about 30 minutes ago (7:30), and I've made...

Yeah, tinylove, you're not alone. I tend to be very open-minded about my wife communicating with her ex-es, but a situation like this could, indeed, feel quite threatening. Especially this soon after getting used to him being poly. If you need to unload some thoughts or talk about this, you...

Thank you. Even though I said I'd be staying away for a while, I'll probably hop on here and talk about how I'm feeling tonight. And also on Thursday, to see how I feel the morning after (I really think this will be the most awkward part), and again to see how I feel after I talk to my wife...

Yeah, that's it. She and I talked about it while she was setting the date (I even did some of the texting for her, transcribing her speech to text because she was driving for part of it -- I also gave her a few clever quips and hooks to use in her conversation with him :p) and I made sure to...

I'm so excited. It's weird how I turned around in such a short time, but I'm so excited. She's got a date with her new friend set for Wednesday this week! She'll be hanging out with him late (most likely crashing at his place, knowing her) and I'll pick her up Thursday morning (move-in day)...

While that is solid advice, and I appreciate its validity, My wife has nobody else to turn to right now to offer her support -- her friends all chose the side of the guy who hurt her, and she's alone in the place she loves most. As for feasibility, I can't just drop her like that, especially...