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Yeah, I suppose I worded that poorly, and, as I said, I only feel like that when I'm super depressed. Most of the time I am happy that she gets to explore and be happy. But I also worry about her because she gets hurt easily, and being poly opens her up to so much more of a steady chance of...

While I can appreciate that point of view, tinylove, there is nothing more important to me in my life than the people I love. Since she is the one I love above all others, I have no real reason to think about anything else. There is nothing and no-one I'd rather think about than her. I have...

While the feelings themselves may be unique, saying things like "best" or "most" or whatever imply levels, and levels imply that one is above another. Something else just occurred to me. The idea of her thinking about and missing spending romantic time with another partner bugs me. Like she's...

I think what I mean is that I'm poly. By nature, at least. I have two kinds of friends: ones I love and ones I like. The friends I love I love with all my heart. I trust them with my soul, and I know they trust me with theirs. I will forgive the majority of trespasses and hope that they...

Thanks. Mono and GS helped clear up my point nicely. Awesome.

My wife and I don't want this situation with B and C to bring about the end of what could have been an amazing family. Is there some way to use "I" language effectively to defend against somebody whose response to being upset is "I can't control your feelings, only you can do that?" Because...

Next week would be preferable anyway, because I won't have far to go to be home (moving on Thursday). That, and I'll be near things to do without having to worry about finding a way to get home if I'm too tired or drunk. :P Thank the gods for the El.

By the way, she decided she would not be okay staying there without me, and decided not to do it. Though she said she might do it next week. Uncertain, is the future.

I absolutely would have pursued her, regardless, but she might not have. She did tell me she would not have married me if she knew I had so many problems (because I do), because she was under the impression she was marrying a stable guy who had his shit together (I definitely did not exude that...

My idea that it's okay to love multiple people, but not to have sex with them. That one really insulted her, as she's of the belief that if she loves somebody, she should be able to express if however feels right, including sex. I just find other ways of expressing it, if at all. Latent...

Thank you vandalin, I will share that advice with her. That way, she can kind of have the best of both worlds, in that she gets to spend time with him, without worrying about it becoming a rebound. Cool. I wish I had thought of that, though there is definitely room for it. Just because she's...

I see all of your point, and I got it. Most poly people who want to stay mono for the sake of their existing relationship will simply choose to do so and make it so. For we mono people in mono/poly relationships, it's more along the lines of us not wanting to oppress our loved ones into...

Yeah, and that's why this is so painful, because my wife and I know that he either led us on, or is lying now. Either way, the truth was hidden, and now we're in a shitty situation, with nothing but words between us to help us cope. She is completely uninterested in even being touched...

So there's another guy, the guy she met earlier this week, who we shall name D. D and A talk all the time now, and it's really great. They get along great, and they share a common interest in Hapkido an Iaijutsu (the art of samurai swordsmanship), as well as a bunch of other topics. Last...

And so to continue the saga of high school drama that is my life right now... I'm going to start by assigning nicknames to everyone involved now. I'm myself. Of course. My wife will either be my wife or A. The guy she likes will be B. And his girlfriend will be C. So I've been in on...

I'm working on diversifying, but making friends without relying on the crutch that is the internet, and without being in school or something, makes this very difficult. I can't even talk to most of my work friends, because I'm 22, and most of them are over 40. I really don't know. It's...

Yeah, I didn't actually think of trying to find a traditional love forum. I had no idea there was even a need for them. So just like a general relationship advice forum? I bet I'd find a lot of poly people there, too, though, trying to help people realise that what they're feeling is ok, and...

So I have a question. It's a painful one, and I know it will enrage many people, but remember that while that feeling is valid, it really only comes from the feeling of me threatening your core ideals. THE BIG QUESTION(S): Why, in a mono/poly relationship, does the monogamous person have to...

!!!!!!!!!! The thing is, I haven't actually tried, so this could just be a horrifying fearful preconception, and there could really be nothing wrong, and everything could be okay. Should I give that a go before trying to lobotomize myself? Should I wait and just tough it out until a sexual...

So I fucked up. Big time. First, by unleashing my irrational, fearful responses in this public forum, where my wife was previously given explicit permission by me to read them and take part in them. I did not stop to think who I would be hurting by saying what was on my mind, nor the effect...