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I just suggested the idea of setting a time per day or week to talk about it. I told him to think about what he is comfortable with and let me know later, so hopefully we can come to something like once a day for a 1/2 hour or so instead of continuously. I think it's been our only topic of...

Thank you for your input. I definitely am getting annoying to him and I am overwhelming him, but I'm even afraid to ask him at this point what level of communication he feels is enough on his part vs. my needs. We used to communicate fairly well before, but he's always been a little more quiet...

I think him and I have totally different communcation styles and needs. He doesn't really tell me much about what he's thinking, feeling and wanting and either expects that I'm a mind reader, or that I just don't have the need to know. At this stage, I'm questioning him a lot on a lot of...

Ahhh, I too am affected by those "serious medical conditions" too, NK! :p Those habits are hard to break, but I've been doing better with them. Congrats on the weight loss! I'm trying to figure out what a realistic and healthy goal is by the end of August when we celebrate our anniversary. Thats...

LOL!!! Dontcha hate when that happens? I've done that too. I usually walk around the harbor where I live through this abandoned hotel and restaurant property. I swear, I've almost considered squatting behind a bush once or twice just so I could keep walking, but I never get the courage and just...

I've got 4 tats on my back, plan on getting many more and possibly 1/2 or 1/4sleeves eventually. I used to have my ears gauged to 0, but took them out for work and they've closed up to a 4 now. The butterfly on my shoulder in my av, is one that I desgined myself. I had my tongue, labret...

No, they haven't met already. He keeps going back and forth on it, partially because of how I have been behaving. I think a lot of it has to do with the Dr Jekkyl/Mr Hyde thing I've had going on this week. I feel like a looney bin. I'm fine with it during the day and then I get home and have a...

I've found so many excellent threads here in the archives after NK pointed me in the right direction. Thanks, NK!

I'm irritated at myself for not going last night..or this morning. My bff called who I don't get to talk to a lot due to our schedules, so between babbling with her about her upcoming wedding and making dinner for him, I was pooped by the time 9pm rolled around. Then, I slept in. I guess I'm...

We live right on the water, so I've been using that to my advantage and walking a lot more recently. I think the gym time might cut into him and I time as that's our time together, so I've got to configure a new schedule for working out. I'm not a morning person at all, but I'm going to try to...

Ahh, here it is :) http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1693

Figures now that I go back into the archives and I can't find it! Once I find it, I'll post the link :)

I finally held up to going to the gym when I said I was going to, instead of making excuses to not go! I did 20 mins. 10 on the elliptical and 10 on the bike at high intensity. It felt great. Today, more cardio and I'm going to add in some weights too. Feeling good about this :)

The kids are 2, 3 and 5. The relationship ended with the last child 2 years ago. She has been in a few relationships since and has only dated men that had girlfriends or been married since and has had no further children. She says she's only dated men since that were attached so as not to...

Apparently, she only wants something not serious and does not want to introduce him to her kids. Since neither of us have opened our relationship up to separate lovers and relationships, we decided we both want a no strings attached relationship with our other partners until we decide if we can...

Silly me for not reading further... I see RP had a thread on almost the exact same thing from a few years ago when looking in the archives. I figured it happens this way for most poly relationships, but then again new to all of this, I'm learning and pretty much everything I'm feeling is so new...

Ahh, understood NK :D I'm just confused on what I should be calling it. I guess excitement would be alright. I read some of the posts on the veto power, but I'm still reading through the thread and had not gotten to that part yet. Sorry, I need to be better on reading it all before replying :p

OK, so the excitement and energy he is feeling about their convos and about meeting her is not considered NRE??????? I'm fully aware of what the acronym stands for, and as far as I see it, since I haven't seen this excitement and desire in him towards doing this, I thought thats what it is. I...

Thanks, will bookmark those. I'm definitely not going for a veto power thing my any means, I feel thats wrong unless like BU stated in her reply about it being dangerous to the relationship via drugs, mental issues, law breaking, etc.

We've been gently getting closer going into this for the last few years for the fact that the thought of us being with a woman together or with other partners separately has made our intimacy even stronger in the times we discuss it. We've been around each other nearly non stop for over 6 years...