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That's a good point. I tend to assume people know I don't talk on "beyond doubt and 100% certain of it" terms. My bad. Of course, it's not 100% chance of disaster with this. It never is. I know the feeling, of having the need to enjoy every moment of it, since you're not sure if you'll ever...

Where I live poly is also not talked about a lot. It's even shunned upon, sadly. When Peaches first brought up the topic and talked about it, after I got over the initial fear of not being ok with it when it came to actually dating someone else, we educated ourselfs. This forum itself is full...

Differs from person to person, like most everything on relationships. Sadly, there's no "rule". Peaches seemed to adjust to this in less than an hour. I got a little bit of competitive jaleousy from him, but nothing that was harmfull to the relationship or even bothered me at all. Me, It took me...

I'm with Anneintherain on that. The first thing that came to my mind reading your post is that 14 days is a long period to be with someone you've never spent a considerable amount of time in person before. Also, the "no falling in love" rule generally ends up in a big mess. You don't fall in...

I was literally forced out of the closet. xD Me and Peaches have been "poly in theory" for a long time now, but only recently I actually started another relationship. We were out only for my sister. But I was seen by friends with my new partner and I couldn't find it in me to deny/hide him from...

ANYONE outside my relationship of ONE WEEK having a say on our sex life is a massive red flag for me. xD Vosh did say on one reply that he didn't do anything to raise their suspicion. I was trying to focus on the relationship before talking about the mother, but it IS really messed up/strange...

This is not healthy at all. You seem to really like her, based on you saying you don't want to end this relationship. So here's my advice: 1. Think about how you feel right now and what are your limits. Would you agree to a poly relationship, IF it was a healthy one? (With both participating in...

Wow, ok. She didn't talk with you about this new relationship she's engaging at all? Did you guys had a poly arrangement on your own relationship previous to that? If you do, what are the terms? It sounds really inconsideate of her to just decide on her own she'll be in another relationship...

I Love this XD The "ok" strategy is really good, too. I'll be sure to try this out next time I hear something like that. Something that hapenned too was people saw me and CC together and came up with the most amazing tale about it. When it reached my ears, "Peaches was an abusive boyfriend and...

Ok, I just wanted to say first that you "shoud" not be ok with something you are not. That being said, WHAT exactaly are you not ok with? It sounds like you feel really intimidated, at least that's what the bully example says to me.

He seems willing to try. I really hope he can do it, too. Thanks a lot for your concern. :)

Hey all. As someone who only recently came out of the poly closet (kind of forced out, actually) I've been experiencing a lot of prejudice, gossip and "slut shaming". Fortunatly I have an awesome family and a few amazing friends and so far this didn't have a too much of a negative impact on my...

He does, I think. When I said how much I liked him he was like: ...Why? When I stated all I liked about him, kind of confused by his question, he brought up what he thinks to be his faults and downsides of being with him. I then said that most of that was his poor self esteem talking. And as for...

They do know each other. As I mentined, CC was my best friend before I had this relationship of sorts with him, and there were days when he, me and Peaches hung out together, just the three of us. The dynamics were good between them, even after CC and I were already flirting and I had talked...

I'm really new to this myself, but I do recommend reading this forum (the blogs and the "general poly discussion" for example) and some sites about poly. I found a lot of great texts on http://www.morethantwo.com/ Ask V to read a lot about it too. A big part of my experience with poly working...

Wow. Reading your reply actually helped me a lot. Yes, I don't think he does. When I first brought up about me being poly (back when we were just friends) he mentioned he agrees to my point of view and would engage a relationship like this. I don't remember me explaining this in detail...

I knew I needed help about something in this. I just couldn't grasp exatly what I needed advice about, tough. I decided to register in the foruns and start posting anyways. So I saw one of thoses signatures where people describe their curent relationships. And I was like: Cool, let's do one of...

I second that. It's very important that anyone involved knows both about your boyfriend and your intentions. Things can get pretty ugly whenerver there's not enough communication. Having another partner is very recent to me. I'm only starting to learn to deal with this and all kinds of fears...

I've been through similar feelings very recently. I also always had an amazing relationship with my boyfriend, also has little to no experience with sex besides from him, we also talked a lot about experiencing stuff outside our ralationship but when the time came when I felt atracted to...

I'll admit I'm very new on managing more than one relationship at once, but I can't seem to see one of my partners as a secondary. I've read definitions that say a Primary is someone who you share your house/finances/day-to-day situations, but I really fell like I can't just put people on...