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GS--I know that it is ideal not to take it personally and I am *trying*, but it is very hard. Sexual chemistry for me is *rarely* about how one looks. I need to be emotionally connected. So, it came as a shock that sexual chemistry does not rise out of emotional connection for him. He can...

I will try to respond to the other posts as well, but in general, the question is not about his lack of sexual desire--the reasons behind that are somewhat known to me, as much as he understands them (he is baffled as well). My major question is whether or not it is understandable that I am...

I need support. I'm really upset right now, so I hope that I can get this across ok. So, I've been seeing FV for 6 months. We were waiting to have sex until DW was ok with it. We finally set a hotel date for mid-November and then I ended up with a yeast infection, but I suggested that we...

Yes, Mono (and others), I'm very interested in hearing about all of this, as DW and I are considering a cohabitation arrangement with his gf at some point in the near future. We really need to update! It's the fear of the unknown that gets me, that and the "it's too soon" voices in my head. I...

Update: I've met them both! We have a major update due soon, and we're going to need input (all good). But for now, I'll just say that I've now met DW's gf several times, and think she's absolutely lovely. And now I've spent the weekend with my bf and his wife. I consider myself incredibly...

As per a recent conversation DW had said that if given the opportunity (R would not communicate with him; I am no longer dating him as a result), he would thank R. I was a bit shocked and asked him to elaborate and he said that we are so much closer than we ever were--that even we were...

That's something, Lemondrop! I've been reading this thread with interest, because DW and I are heavily considering coming out to our kids. They are 9, 7, and 4 and have met DW's girlfriend. I'll post questions later, but we are off to the track. I'm glad it went well for you, Lemondrop, and...

I know you are, and I can't tell you how grateful I am! Although more responses are always nice, I also know how hard it is to keep up with as many people and threads as I want to.... Love you!

Redpepper, I didn't want you to think that I hadn't read this, or that I didn't appreciate it. I do very much. I'm just all over the place lately and had forgotten that I had not replied. I actually haven't read your coming-out thread entirely, but I did recently catch up on the sharing...

LR, Isn't that just it? Polyamory is a ticket, really--to self-discovery, to learning about your partner, to so many things. Honestly, prior to this past year, most people didn't believe how close and in love DW and I were. And yet, he reflected this weekend, we were on auto-pilot and this...

You guys are great! I'm having many deep thoughts lately, and for some reason, I was very struck by the symbolism of the door. A door represents so much-- opportunity (gained and potentially lost), boundaries and promise. I hope that all of you benefit greatly from the new opportunities that...

Anotherbo, Your post was very timely. As I've shared, I have suffered from debilitating depression on and off for years. And I too get so frustrated when people make it sound "easy" to get better. It's not!!! I mean, I've tried naturopathy, acupuncture, chiropractic care, drugs, you name...

An update related to poly, but also about anxiety and depression As I've mentioned before, this past two-plus years have been very difficult for me. I ended up in a psych hospital for suicidal ideation (one of the worst experiences of my life, and I'm referring to both the ideation and the...

I never thanked you So, thank you! ;)

Wow, Mono, congratulations! I know I'm pretty new here and all, but I've been following your collective journey with interest and admiration, waiting for the news, and here it is! As you know, and DW and I have discovered, a strong foundation and commitment to superb communication goes a LONG...

That is a relief and for that I'm so glad! But I'm sorry for the strife and the uncertainty too and wish you peace as you sort out your feelings.

Mindful Agony, I'm sorry for the bumps along the way; I know a thing or two about bumps and am only recently trying to embrace them as part of my path, along with the joy. I too would be more apt to pursue it a bit. To what point, I don't know. More than likely she is physically okay, but...

I was redpepper, sorry. I figured you didn't go by redpepper on OKC. I'd love to know--I've been enjoying finding people and adding dimensions. I've had lovely chats this morning with 3 different people from this thread. As you may know, I don't feel like I have much of a community here in...

We're on OKC as well Hi all, DavidWebb and I are on OKC as well. His profile is under nySoxfan and mine is oh so original Christie_CC. We have had great luck on OKC--I have dated 2 men from there, one relationship is still going strong, and DW has dated two women, one of which is still...

Hi Derby! Yes, I think this is how I think it will happen. I'm in no rush at all! Thanks for the sage advice!