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Oh, you are absolutely right, Breathesgirl. I was in a conference in Ottawa in October. But I thought the camping group was in BC, and that is a great distance! Actually, one of the men I'm seeing is from Ontario, so perhaps someday...

Female, married to a man, DavidWebb on the forum, poly, dating 2 men and very curious to date a woman, just not sure how to find someone who would be willing to very slowly cultivate a relationship with me, and I'm in the "habit" of being attracted to men.

This is way off topic from the thread, sorry. But yes, someday a visit would be lovely. I even have a passport now. Maybe someday we'll have a poly group in Albany! Really, I live in the middle of nowhere, but the capital of NY is not the middle of nowhere. I'm so glad that you all had a...

Mono, Who's vegan? And there's not only a poly group there, but a vegan restaurant? Christie, contemplating re-location (Relax, DW, if you read this. You know I hate moving!)

Thanks, Janeb. This is most definitely true. If you pay close enough attention, I find that you have lots of opportunity to learn about yourself on this poly journey.

Is it wrong that I have envy for this? Really I'm just being impatient. I know I will meet my bf's wife sooner or later. They are both poly and have been for years, but we live a bit of a distance apart, and we both have youngish kids. But I have sort of a fantasy of us all hanging out. There's...

Let's take a moment and pause the judgment. Questions of fairness are elusive. Your feelings are your feelings and I think it is a lot more productive to sit with those, see where they are coming from, and assess whether they can be changed. I've been giving this a lot of thought lately. DW...

I'm sorry that I can't completely relate to where you are coming from, but I'm a very empathic person, so to an extent, I can. Your negative feelings about poly need to be honored, just as her desire to explore her other relationship needs to be. I can only speak for myself, but things improved...

Hi, Tracy. First of all, welcome to the forum. This is a fantastic group of people, many of whom have provided some incredible guidance to my dh and me. I have a couple of first thoughts, based both on my own experience and the experiences others have shared on this forum. One is that you need...

Ha! One of the men I'm seeing and I have a running joke about our first dates being like job interviews. He sat at our 2nd date and talked about how the 2nd date is the make it or break it one (referring to another woman he was seeing). I just started chuckling and it took him a minute to...

I hope it went well Michelle, I think your meet-up was yesterday, so I hope it went well!!!! DW and I were just discussing meeting the secondaries. (Yes, he is dating someone, but I'll let him tell you about that as he wishes.) We are eager to, but will be nervous, for sure. If you get a...

Coming out and inviting unwanted advances Hi all! So my potential partner and I were discussing "coming out" to people. We would both very much like to meet each others' families, but he and his wife are pretty certain that their 9-year old will pick up the vibe between us. They describe her...

You were on target in an uncanny way!!! Thank you!!!!

Update: This one is gone For a series of reasons of which this particular comment he made fit in, I will no longer be dating this man. In that sense, I'm actually glad that he made that comment, for it was a flag that I could not ignore. I'm not a "model" of anything, I'm a human being and...

Update on the importance of sex--Had our first appointment with a poly-friendly couns So, DavidWebb and I went to see an actually poly-friendly counselor yesterday. How refreshing that she was using terms like “secondary” and “poly” with not so much as a bat of an eyelash. So, in that sense...

Erato, You are absolutely right--he is the most awesome partner I could ever ask for, in *every* way, and his working so hard to understand my poly desires is just further evidence of that. He's been through so much, over the years, but especially in the last couple of years and not only...

Hey Mono, Although clearly we are in "opposite" camps (and please no one actually think that I see it as us vs them), I always value your input. I like that you raised that concern and I'm glad you feel comfortable to do so. Warmly, Christie

Welcome Megan!!!! I'm glad you found what works for you and it seems that it is working well for you!!!! Best wishes, Christie