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Ceoli, Thank you for sharing this because it gives me insight to what my (our) GF might feel when I'm insecure. Or really, more along the lines of what she felt early on after moving in when I was crazy from medication and all of my insecurities were magnified by like 1000. Sweetie said...

You are semi-correct, I suppose, in this... I've already said to both of them, and to a few close friends, that I've been forced to recognize things I hadn't had to see when I was the center of his universe. However, to characterize those things as "existing issues" in my marriage is definitely...

Sweetie, nothing you said was even remotely offensive, and I appreciate the thoughts. I am fairly sure that she sees what I do, and I know she hurts to think she is causing me pain, even indirectly. It is why - even if my most paranoid thoughts were true, and he actually DID like and want sex...

LOL. I am not offended. However, I rarely initiate. With him, especially. So... they *know* I'm available, but it's not like I'm constantly trying to get in their pants. Gee, I guess I make myself sound like a total horndog or something. LMAO. I'd be totally happy to have sex with each of them...

I knew I was in love with my husband after our first date. I knew my entire life had changed. I also recognized it was the first "real" love I'd ever felt. With our gf, I fell in love in about three weeks. The feelings were eerily similar to the ones I felt for him early on... the difference...

Hi Dave... I'm also pretty new, both to the forum and polyamory. I'm married and we have a girlfriend, so I'm in the sort of relationship you described. :) Welcome. :) I like it here, and hope you do, too!

Okay... I've posted before about how frustrating it is to be the person in our triad with the highest sex drive. I was feeling really insecure about sex for a while. Our GF has done a lot to assuage those feelings, but my husband has done nothing - nor did I expect him to. It's just not his MO...

They would certainly agree with you on the last point. :) I just realized your question was certainly valid, and I had to address that. If there weren't so much wonderful, it wouldn't be worth the work. And if there ever stopped being so much wonderful... well, let's hope that doesn't happen...

Well... I was the one who wanted the alone time, back when she first moved in. There were a few reasons for this. One was that she and I were not working, so we had a lot of unstructured alone time that he didn't get with either of us. The other was that I felt I needed to learn to adjust to...

Wow, I'm sorry. I hope Trish realizes that her relationship might have some very, very serious issues. It sounds like she doesn't have a lot to work with, where Karen is concerned. This is very sad for them, but you don't deserve to be treated badly because of it, either. ((hugs))

You are very strong, and that's a good thing. I agree that for now, at the very least, poly needs to wait. If he has issues with not addressing your needs when there are friends around, I am sure it would be a major challenge for him to address the needs of two women he was romantically and...

My husband, Dan, and our GF, Delia, have alone time tonight. I screwed up estimating the time on dinner and that resulted in them having it until 10 pm, which is about an hour later than it normally would be. Delia goes to bed at 10:30, so that means I get basically no time with her tonight...

I agree. In our case, everyone knew about my issues. What we didn't know was that I would spend six weeks crazy out of my mind thanks to a nasty side effect of a drug I was on to help fibromyalgia, or that to compound that, my thyroid would act up. If not for the timing on that, I believe...

Oh, I do understand that feeling! I am here because, as supportive and open as my husband and our girlfriend are, there are issues I sometimes need to sort out before I can bring them to my loves. And sometimes there are things that I'm upset or anxious about, and just talking about it or...

My husband and I were in your position this past March. We met someone online, never in a million years imagined it to be more than a virtual fling, and then wound up falling in love with her. You mentioned that Lissy has had insecurities in the past. Speaking from my own experiences, even if...

I am in total agreement with SeventhCrow. That's basically where my thoughts were going. If she is willing to settle for a relationship that doesn't seem especially fair or healthy, there is a reason for that, and it is probably going to result in drama that you, Ann and your child do not need...

Wow... you are definitely in a tough position. I think that Karen and Trish have relationship issues that have nothing to do with you and Trish. Karen obviously dominates that relationship, and it sounds like she tends to want what she wants, but not give any in return. She cheated on Trish...

Thank you all for reading... I know it was long. I was sobbing most of the time writing it, and my gf, who sits behind me in our office, was repeatedly telling me how cute I was and not to cry. It was actually a sweet moment. :) I told her today that I don't know if I'd ever be whole again if...

Thanks for reading... I just thought it was important that I get all of that said, too. And I emailed it to both of them, so they'd know I was sharing the good, too.

I found this forum because I wanted a place I could to talk to people who understand the dynamics of a poly relationship. I needed somewhere to vent freely, but because that was my intention, all of my posts about our triad have been negative. Redpepper even said something along the lines of she...