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When my husband told his mother about our gf, via email, she promptly called him and said, "So, Kari's a lesbian?" He said, "No, she's bisexual." She then said, "I thought you and Kari were supposedly so happy. So, why this?" He was pissed, and hung up on her. (It is worth noting that they have...

The sex thing has been an issue before, even without her. Someone's reply made me remember feeling slighted when we weren't having sex, but he masturbated. So, while it does compound the issue, it's not really something I haven't already dealt with, where he is concerned. Aside from the sex...

I have had a lot of the feelings you describe... initially, watching my husband with another woman was extremely surreal, and not even necessarily in a bad way. When our GF and him began alone time, and that involved sex, I remember being like... wait, huh? What? My husband just had sex with...

YGirl, I like your definition. :) I don't have a problem with envy. Jealousy can be destructive, but envy usually isn't. And if it is, it hurts the person feeling that way, and not me (unless I'm the one feeling the envy, haha).

I have encountered this to some degree, I guess. I've had some people who have struggled with finding one person worth loving make comments about my having two people to love, who love me back. I haven't let it get to me, though. I am far from perfect, but I've worked really hard to get to a...

By the way, what we did was write her letters, and then she wrote us an email. After that, we all talked. It was easier that way for a few reasons. One, with her memory issues (some genuine and some selective), I wanted a written record of what we talked about. Two, it prevented him and me...

Ugh, it's a long, drawn out story, but here's a rough outline. She has major communication issues. She has major problems handling conflict. Between the two, she has a tendency to twist or manipulate her words. She means no malice, but it has resulted in some trust issues when she's been caught...

It actually is just the sex. He touches me all the time. He snuggles me in bed. He rubs my feet when we're watching TV, holds my hand in the car... And at any rate, he saw how unhappy I was and told me to tell him. So, I did. As it turns out, this created a reaction in our GF that opened a...

She is diabetic, so this isn't an uncommon issue for her (though as thrush it's the first). I eat tons of yogurt and am not overly concerned... but thank you for the tip and warning.

All valid points... and this is the first time this has happened. I am definitely very emotional about sex. No getting around that. It's actually part of why I want them so much, as I've always had a high sex drive, but aside from them, have never been so... easy to get started?

Rarechild, your post came through while I was writing my reply to Quath. It is not like this has gone on a long time. Until recently, the two of them were not having sex much, and she and I weren't, either. She was in a major libido slump. He and I *did* have sex during that time. Her libido...

Quath, we are poly-fi. I don't want anyone else, especially another man. The very idea makes me nauseated. In all honesty, I don't know that I'm *truly* poly. I fell in love, and so did they, but none of us expected or were looking for a triad. She wasn't, having been there a few times and been...

Yeah, I am a master of self-pleasure, but it's small comfort when I feel unwanted or undesirable. I wish I saw the benefit of talking to him about this. Her, I talked to, except leaving out the part where it feels as though he wants her more than he does me. I don't think I need to point that...

I never considered it. Ever. In fact, my jealousy was so extreme that in my sexual fantasies about him and I, when a woman came into play, I ended the fantasy if they started up. Which is just plain nuts because it was my own damn fantasy. He never wanted a threesome. He had a chance once...

Thanks for reading, Mono.

And omg, that was long, so if you read it all, thank you.

My husband and I have been with our gf for six months. Before she moved in, he had been experiencing a major increase in his libido. Actually, it was before we even met her. Prior to that, we'd been avergaing once every 10 days or so, if that. He'd always had a lower sex drive. Also, we'd spent...

Oh, there's something to face up to, but it's not them. It's me. The paranoia is seeped in my own insecurities, and they can't resolve those for me. In fact, in some ways I think she'll be a fabulous addition for me, because this brings those matters to the forefront and I have to deal with...

TY, Redpepper. Really, the "issues" I have are all in my head, which is why I'm here. Sometimes I need someone to say, "Hey, stop being stupid and paranoid." LOL

Communication and other stuff Thanks for the warm welcome! I am a talker. I talk through ideas and feelings to sort them out. When I've figured out what I need, I can talk to the two of them easily and openly. It gets stickier when I use them as a sounding board for my insecurities, and I...