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It's interesting... we're very good with aftercare, sometimes I love him belting me hard so that he can comfort me after, we've very intimate and tender and intense, it can be beautiful and comforting and exciting all at once. I think some of my issue is that in two other LTR I had (both mono...

Thanks, GalaGirl and Anneintherain. I find your responses really interesting. I think you're right, Anne, about the switch thing making boundaries more fuzzy. At times, both of us want to be dominated, but it might be hard to let go, because we have so many other roles with each other. I know I...

Hi! I have a question about managing sexual expression with primaries in long-term relationships. In a way, this follows on from Nathan's interesting post about being a primary's sexual secondary. I've been with my bf Bram for over 2 years. We've been open from the start, but taking a more...

Yes, I’m aware of the Bell Curve. It’s likely that many people on here are. I wrote a critique of it when doing my postgrad in psychology. I think it’s interesting how people like co-author Murray (who opposes any sort of welfare state or state help for the poor) can find “proof” that people...

evanevans I know I'm coming in late in this debate but I just wanted to say - I can see your confusion and dismay at feeling not completely accepted by this newly found community, which you assumed would be like-minded and where instead you feel criticised. I can see a few points where your...

1. Your wife changed into a different person after the accident? This means that the woman she used to be sabotaged only one of your relationships (the first one) but sounds like she was fine about your second relationship. You say your second relationship imploded as a result of her accident...

I guess the other difficult thing to get my head around is that, having been around since before I even met Bram, Millie is here for the long term. She's not just going to disappear. Their friendship is important to him, as he doesn't have a large group of friends to socialise with. I definitely...

I'm not sure whether Millie has clearly stated she loves him, but it's obvious to me. She has asked Bram before why they can't be together, several times. I know it's been a source of pain for her. Bram's counter-argument is that I've had a fuck buddy who had feelings for me, who would have...

Thank you all for your input. I guess that's my problem. You all represent the different angles I take on this, and in a sense, the different voices in my head! That's why I'm so torn. 😣 ThatGirlInGray, I think you're right. I should just explain it to Bram. In fact, I'm going to ask him to...

Hello to everyone, I could really do with some insight on this! Just a quick intro-- I've always tended to be non-monoamorous in my relationships (but never cheated). Female, 32, have been with current bf, Bram, for nearly 2 years. This is my second non-monoamorous relationship. It started as...