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I have not, nor will not for the foreseeable future. Benefits of living on the other side of the country. Not sure about Shannon. Two members of Shannon's family know (our age, and hang out with us occasionally, so kinda had to know!). Shannon did allude to it when giving a birthday speech, but...

Always go with your gut feeling. It is our gut feelings that keep us safe. (Having said all that, one of my lovers was upfront etc. Upfront about sex and whatnot I find refreshing HOWEVER, if I find anything about someone offputting I am out of there so fast).

To me it makes sense? Someone who is largely straight, is not completely straight. Shannon identifies as "mostly straight" - 99% of the time will go for the opposite sex, but 1% will go for the same. Seems relatively straightforward? Further, some people just starting out will feel more...

I very nearly almost came out as poly to my parents. But, I covered it with a lie. Why? I am not ready yet. (Shannon and I have a longterm flatmate. In fact she has been my flatmate through various places for about four years, and predates Shannon. My mum was stating she seemed so much more...

I am in Australia, too. I was exceptionally lucky. I fell into a relationship with Shannon. (Shannon was a fuckbuddy initially, it developed from there.) Fairly early on I met someone who was drunk, into me, and decided to introduce me to the concept of poly. We had great conversation that...

Yay Vanille! I must admit, the first time Shannon slept with another whilst I was about (with someone who was also my lover), I was concerned about how I would actually cope with it, especially as their sexual connection is fairly amazing. We do not know for sure how we will react in each...

An interesting read, and informative for me. Growing up where I did - everything was communal property. I have essentially no concept of "mine", and that includes personal space. I will now be far more mindful of space a lover may have claimed as "mine"(theirs). Yay, learnings :)

It is easy enough to feel constantly under attack. I have to be careful not to mention the lovely evening Shannon and I shared with Jamie, Morgan and Sascha. It was a great evening, a joy I wish to share with others, but imparting such information to some people is frowned upon, and may even...

When one is angry, it is often hard to see how a relationship can be recovered. But, often it can. It takes a long time, and ALOT of work on both sides, but it is a possibility. Shannon and I have safe sex rules. Hell, it is our only rule. But, I have discussed precisely what I define "safe...

Okay, you are asking internet-world. This to me says somewhere you are feeling guilty, or there is a little red flag going up for you. We have these little niggling thoughts for a reason. When we learn to listen to them we generally can manage to stay out of trouble.

The whole falling for fuck-buddies does happen. That's how Shannon and I got together. After we had both successfully had many fuck-buddy type relationships before. Although even then we still denied it for months (to the extent our mutual friends declared we were dating no matter our...

Not all men cheat :) And hell, not all women are that great at not cheating :p But, this is besides the point. I will lay down two potential options 1. COMMUNICATE - lay down some ground rules. Shannon is not entirely cool with me sleeping with someone else in our bed, especially if Shannon is...

It is normal for so many people. I find what works for me - and this means it may not work for you - is to make sure I schedule time in for any current relationships I have going. So, I may be pursuing newbie - but I schedule in Wednesday night, from 9pm until I have to go to work, for...

I did however see an episode of The Mentalist (?) that had a poly couple in it. Wife was dying, husband and boyfriend both could have done it. Polyamoury was touched on, discussed in brief, and then moved on. It wasn't relevant to the case. I liked how the writers hadn't made the people...

We have one rule. It is a rule that applied to mono and poly relationships equally. Safe Sex. If Safe Sex does not occur, and I find out about it, unspeakable consequences will arise. Oh, Shannon has expressed a preference I don't sleep with any of their relatives (have to adopt a look but...