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It would be great if someone found a good way to do it; but, it's a common thing and I've seen, read, and heard very few examples of it being frequent, let alone easy, to do. There's a lot of social reasoning around it (all of it sexist and stupid). "Girl sex" is HAWT, right (and that is...

How were you forced to marry him? Are you in a country with arranged marriages?

Definitely don't suggest you just tear it down totally, but it's worth letting him know that he has to show you change, which he isn't, and set that change out in clear, definite terms of what you need to start rebuilding trust. Not vague "I need you to be trustworthy," but specifics. Also...

Cis-gendered female. Bi, but much closer to the lesbian side of the spectrum in orientation (meaning, I find very few men romantically or sexually interesting, but there are enough that I can't really consider myself a lesbian, exactly). Relationship configuration fluid: I am happy in a variety...

Really? And he knows this how? She's lying to a man she made vows to be honest and faithful to--there's certainly no reason to think she's not lying to your husband. There are almost always two sides to this kind of story, and often the cheater is re-writing marital history to justify their...

I think, very honestly, that you need to walk away, right now. And, you should get into counseling for yourself. Just like putting more money into a bad investment only means you lose more money, putting more time into a bad relationship means you are just spending more time in a bad...

One bit of advice is to stop looking to "add' someone to your relationship--that isn't how relationships work. Take a few minutes and read this, and do a search here on "unicorn hunter," "unicorns," and "triads." There's a wealth of information here on the type of relationship you're thinking...

You could also stop saying things like you're "adding" someone to your relationship. People aren't, as NYCindie says, condiments. That kind of language is, at least for almost all the "unicorns" I know (including myself, when I was one) incredibly off-putting, and says huge amounts about the...

It's an expectation for me that everyone can be cordial in necessary situations (emergencies, scheduling issues, life milestone celebrations like graduation college or deaths in the immediate family, etc.). But, it's not a rule, it's a boundary. I only date people who can and do handle...

Again, I'll recommend a counselor. Polyamory takes open, honest communication. Clearly, Hamish is currently not capable of either, given that he lied to both of you. This is not a recipe for any kind of poly configuration to work. It is definitely a road to huge drama.

Actually, it's far more common and generally longer-lasting for relationships to a "v" shape, where the metamours have little or nothing to do with each other. Triads tend to fall apart far more often. A triad/triangle tends to fall apart because of the expectations put on the third person...

It's actually pretty common for metamours to have nothing to do with each other. We have a lot of members on this board in very long-term relationships, where metamours have nothing to do with each other outside of emergencies. It may not be how you and Hamish wish to do polyamory, and that is...

How many of your wife's friends do you hang out with, or have "meaningful" relationships with? I am guessing very few. Why would you think this would be any different? People like different people for different reasons, and not everyone who has a mutual friend likes each other. Just because...

You are not responsible for their relationship, and you are not the one hurting her. But, for me, knowingly participating in a situation where there isn't active consent (and, for me, "do this or lose me" doesn't constitute active consent) makes me complicit with unethical behavior, which I...

Honestly, walk away. If she's only doing it to keep him happy it's going to explode at some point into all kinds of drama. The relationship between him and her is their thing, but I could never be comfortable in a relationship where my partner's other partner(s) was "taking one for the team."...

I agree with FA, it's way too soon to for you guys to be getting this domestic. Unfortunately, this is something that happens a lot when couples "bring in" a "third" (usually a girlfriend). They kind of just forget about the whole dating thing, and try to insert him/her into their daily routine...

So, all my other issues with unicorn hunting aside, the problem with your pictures is, IMHO, not what they do show, but what they don't. They'd be more targeted at a swinger's scene (that's not a bad thing, it's just what you're marketing in these photos seems to be targeted at the physical...

I wondered the same thing. Then I realized that they're self-professed unicorn hunters who are looking for a live-in nanny who'll fuck them both. So, I'm guessing that as long as a woman is single, willing to babysit for free, and bi and willing to fuck them both, she'd be attractive to them...

Totally inappropriate to post this here.

If you enjoy his company and it's all going well, and he treats you well, go with it! That said, there are definitely a few things to think about: 1. It sounds like you have some self-esteem, trust, and insecurity issues that you need to work on, whether or not you pursue this relationship...