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The questions I asked above aren't judgement, they're things you need to consider, weight, and possibly change if you have any hope of things working out in the way you desire. Your wife will need to see your desired new relationship way as beneficial for her (and your children, I'd assume), and...

It is actually not terribly common for poly metamours in a "V" to live together. It happens, of course, but it's complicated, at best, and so most "V" shapes tend to live apart. There are several members here with more than one primary relationship where "arms" of the V do not cohabitate. In my...

So, let me see if I have this correct: you have developed a full-fledged emotional (not sure about physical) affair, and are hoping your wife accepts this and is okay with splitting your time and resources with your new love even though you've kept her totally in the dark and planned an entire...

I think it's important to realize it isn't your best friend's/ex-girlfriend's partner that is actually the issue; but, rather it's her. She has agree/allowed him to dictate who she can/cannot date, and that is on her. You want to be friends, which is admirable, but she has chosen to allow...

There are many reasons people cheat, not just lack of safety in expressing their desire for others (I had an ex who cheated--we were poly--because he was both ashamed to admit he wanted to fuck women who he thought inferior to himself so he could actively engage in degrading them and also...

I must agree with FallenAngelina entirely. Again, as I've recently said elsewhere, poly relationships are no different than mono ones in most ways. When you were single, did you feel like you had to "prove" to someone that dating them was bad for you if you wanted to break up? Hopefully not...

Also, to build on the backs of the posts of others: Poly is no different than mono relationships. If you wouldn't have thought you were in love after the third date with a woman when you were single, the same applies now. If you wouldn't have asked for a total commitment from someone after...

First, am I reading correctly that he left his wife and his girlfriend to be monogamous with you? Second, it's not poly if you didn't know it was going on and the agreement was that he would be monogamous. That's cheating. Third, poly is simply having more than one romantic relationship. That...

Thread "What's in it for the Unicorn."

Also, it's worth noting that family does not get to "decide" where a removed child would go, and it's actually not that usual for a child that is removed from the home by protective services (this is the way kids get removed from a home legally if the parents are not giving them up, not by some...

I agree with Opalescent, consult a lawyer. In most states, no, you're in no danger so long as the home you provide your children is a good home. If the state took away kids in every situation where someone wasn't "faithful" to their spouse, half the people in the US would have had their kids...

You guys also really, really need to read this. What you have "agreed to" with Snarky is unfair, fundamentally, to Sunshine. You and he are not in a position to be poly right now, for so many reason (many of which have been detailed above), and dragging someone else into it with so much couple...

Continuing on with Spork's thoughts, with which I agree, what is going to happen if you're husband not only gets tired of bearing the brunt of the blame for this, but also tired of hearing the woman he cares about and is also the mother of his child derided (which she will be, if you say she...

So, do you have full veto power to end their relationship, as well? As in, she either dates you both, or she can't date either of you?

Am I reading correctly that he's dating while you're pregnant, but you're not (I get the not having sex with anyone else, given the issues with possible STDs and a developing fetus, but why no kissing or anything--it's going to be difficult to find a person who doesn't want physical contact with...

FallenAngelina's post is spot-on. In addition, I would also suggest you all give some time to thinking about what things are going to be like once you conceive again. If there is already such limited time, and if Snarky is struggling to spend enough time with the child you already have, that's...

That is true in the entirety of the US. The ADA requires service animals be allowed anywhere their companion goes, from restaurants to living quarters (there are limited species included in this, primarily dogs but a few others are included). This is not true of emotional support animals, however.

Wiccan is spot-on. Also, read this article, and do a search here for "unicorn hunter," "unicorn," and "triads." The "adding a hot bi-babe" fantasy is a common one for those new to poly, because it seems "safe," and "hot." In reality, it's very different. Read the stories here, and really take...

Have you read "So Someone Called you a Unicorn Hunter?" I suspect it's very relevant to your situations.

Just go, be cordial and polite to her, and don't worry about it. You are adults, it's been two years, neither you or your SO are responsible for her behavior, or for giving anyone a head's up that she might be an issue. If she has issues with the two of you being there, it is on her to let the...