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yay! It must be nice to finally get that off of your chest, hope when you see each other next it's easy and relaxed for, which it probably will if you don't overthink again ;)

I'm glad you had a great time. I know those feelings must not be fun to deal with. It sounds like you're aware of what you are thinking and feeling, which is good. Just make sure to be open to all the other wonderful people in the world.

You're so goofy DH ;) I don't consider being open to more or less stuff to be more liberal. I sure try hard not to worry if other people approve of how I'm living my life. I don't feel comfortable having an "anything goes" partner as a live in partner, and I don't want to be one. I don't expect...

Sheesh I kinda hate writing here, but I think it's important so share highs and lows. The stable-ish part of my life seems to be at an end. My boyfriend Brian is actively open to dating other people after not doing so for going on two years. At about the same time I decided to reactivate my...

Well have you talked specifically with this partner about this issue, is it one sided or does he feel the same and have different feelings about being sexual with you lately? Has anything new happened in the relationship? Moves, new job, new partners, bad habit of him starting to really get on...

I don't have tons of relevant advice at the moment but just throwing out a (lot) of random thoughts about one specific aspect of it - you might want to talk about what will happen if one or both meet somebody and start dating them for awhile. If you can afford hotels that's great, but if not...

I think OKC is good, my husband has had lots of luck there and after recently reactivating my profile on there, I think I know why. Most messages I get are "Hi I like your pictures and your smile" with nothing at all about anything in my profile. Make sure you don't do that. Even a poly guy...

I think lots of people who are seeing more than one person at a time have guilt now and again, maybe especially if things are going well. http://lookingthrough.us/2011/03/ask-polyanna-what-is-poly-guilt/ I personally decided Jesus was AOK with me being super happy so there was nothing to feel...

Has your husband given you specific things he needs to be content enough? X nights home a week, X dates a week with him? Are you doing all the household care you were before poly? Are you spontaneous about how you were splitting your time or specific about scheduling and checking it was not...

I am not sure you realize that part of success for relationships is accepting people as they are. People don't like the bait and switch of "you're wonderful!" and then being told "you're wonderful but I need you to do x, y and z to keep thinking so" Chipmunk was invited into your home as is...

Oh sweetie :( I do wish you'd been taking some of the advice you've been getting. I know this is a blog and not a regular thread but I think that the problem is that you aren't putting responsibility in the right place. Emailing that to Chipmunk isn't going to do anything, who a letter like...

I don't have much to add but since on my third reread I was like - yep, totally do it to yourself like there's no tomorrow, I just had to chime in. If you have a hobby that involves making things, start a new project, I sew and quilt so if I'm feeling restless I get busy with my hands and head...

I see my boyfriend once a week, its rarely an overnight, but regardless, I don't contact my husband on date nights unless it is to say "I'm staying the night" or "I'm going to be home later usual". If I stay overnight there's always the chance I'll see him in passing when I get home if he...

I'm going to be blunt about my first reactions to some of what you wrote. Hopefully it doesn't come across as harsh. But I am hoping that you will take some time to really reflect on what is going on. It kind of is a sore spot with me when somebody thinks they don't have the "right" to ask for...

Is the partner in the original post dating other people? All you can really do is encourage them to date if they want, then every time they do respond in a way that shows them you are OK dealing with it and to remind them you care about them. I've had people get something stuck in their heads...

The details you gave certainly complicate things. Those group outings requests from Naomi make me feel yucky. I can understand you needing to spend group time with them, if you want to see him more than a date night a week or something, and he doesn't have solo time. Was a reason given by...

Oh ya, being passive aggressive (well it is) and hoping HE will want it and bring it up and make it happen so you don't have to be brave isn't usually the best way to go. I imagine now people give advice to watch that Showtime poly show and use that as a reason to bring up poly? If its not a...

You know, people should put themselves first, then they should put the people they love second. If somebody who said they'd be putting me second failed to contact me during a time like this, I think I would consider that to be too selfish and self centered - 30 seconds for a text you know...

Hmmmm...how about you cool it with her so you can actually have time and energy to be open to what you DO want? It's doing both of you a bit of a disservice to be in this situation. My advice would be to talk with her and maybe schedule it so you will still hang out and text but have a few...

@Octovus, I don't think in general people call it anything other than polyamory here or elsewhere - CattivaGattina was just defining. Generally when I see people use the other words they are referring to a married to multiple people set up. Though sometimes I see that or polygamy used when...