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Definitely can see, judging by this, where it went from less pressure on her to him maybe not feeling like he was good enough, which is where you came in. Hmm. There's some layers to peel away here. Some things haven't been addressed yet, between them.

I don't believe this for a second, lol.

Seconded.

About moving in together young: I was in a very adult mindset at the time, what with my mother having passed six months prior. It was circumstantial how it even came to be but when it did it worked for the most part, besides initial hiccups and adjustments. It's understandable why people are...

Sad to hear it didn't work out for y'all. :( Hope you can find some peace in the near future.

I think you should voice your concerns about it to him. That would bother me too, particularly because I know I can always count on help from my partner when I ask, and if he didn't provide without an explanation I'd be annoyed. My lack of tolerance becomes even less when it comes to our son and...

Just wondering: did you ever tell her you cheated? Any talk of polyamory might be a trigger for her. She might recall that time two years ago when you tried to break up with her. Just a guess.

It's okay to be freaked out. I never find myself bouncing off the walls or anything when a potential metamour is mentioned but I do make it a point to see them all as individuals. This doesn't mean I don't consider the possibilities of things going wrong or the discovery of a cowgirl; it just...

Sounds good. It probably makes it easier to be patient knowing that you two are on the same page with this. :)

Your wife sounds a lot like me Kyle, lol. And you sound a lot like my husband. Just letting you know you're not alone. We communicate VERY differently also. That will probably never change, and that's okay, because as long as you DO communicate and check in frequently things shouldn't take...

To be honest I just see it as something to work through on both your parts. Another man still wouldn't be you; he still wouldn't be bringing the exact same things or qualities into the relationship that you do in your marriage. But it definitely takes time to get there.

But... why did you get married planning to 'share' your wife with other women? That's completely different? :confused:

Like Redpepper mentioned, I really don't think you have a grasp on what such a relationship entails. There is a lot of reading and processing to be done first. Don't even entertain the thought of involving someone else without doing your research.

You mean no one will call you back when you WANT them to. It will take time. But wallowing and not being proactive is the surest way to guarantee not ever getting a job, much less a phone call and an interview. You seem indifferent to your situation though, and I don't know what will help with...

There's no such thing as being immune to jealousy, poly or not. My husband has said before that he doesn't picture himself ever getting jealous once I branch out, but I still take it with a grain of salt because I'm well aware that you can't always dictate how you're going to feel until you're...

Certain things about this situation bothers me on many levels but I'll wait until you come back with the results of the family meeting. I hope everything goes well.

It's been refreshing to read something like this. I think over time, with your support and encouragement your wife will begin to feel comfortable enough to dig deeper and get settled in her self-discovery. Sounds like a good start.

Precisely.

That breakdown makes perfect sense, from where I'm sitting. I really think your metamour wasn't expecting for the relationship to progress any further, especially for the fact that most of it has taken place online. I don't see where she put much stock into taking heed of possibilities outside...

Short answer to the question of the thread: NO. Absolutely not. There is a lot of discussion and processing that needs to be had before either of you begin engaging other people, as well as individual work on trust in the relationship and time for that to happen. Have you told him about the...