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    How to be mono when you are poly...

    My husband has always had difficulty expressing and talking. He just shuts down. I on the other hand am very honest and open. I have always said that we are polar opposites. I have asked him what you have said above, in similarity to how you have said it, and I get nothing, he becomes a wall...
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    How to be mono when you are poly...

    Hello, I came out as poly to my husband about 8 months ago. We went through several emotions at first, as expected. We began to communicate better than we ever had and it felt so good to be able to talk about how I felt. He is mono, through and through, which I respect greatly. However, I don't...
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    Stuck at a stand still

    Together 6.5 years, married 3. 1st marriage. 2 Kids How did I know? Well I always knew I guess, I just didn't realize there was a name for it until recently. When I read about it, I was shocked (or sheltered lol). I've always told my husband that I don't believe, personally, that humans are...
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    Stuck at a stand still

    We have been through marriage counseling (twice). Our big issue is that I am Miss Susie freaking honesty and he is very closed off. It's been a long process and this was a huge step back for us when we were making so much progress. And I have no intentions to open up our relationship while we...
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    Stuck at a stand still

    I want to go to open land, I am in no rush. We actually talked yesterday and he apologized for shutting down again, not just about poly but in general. He finally told me that he is stressed with our work situation right now.
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    Polyamory: Married and Dating - Premier July 12th

    Ok almost everyone has sex! :) And I agree that it does sterotype.
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    Stuck at a stand still

    We went through tier 1 and we are on tier 2 right now. He is nowhere near ready for me to find a new lover and I respect that. But I'd like him to learn more and take interest in learning more. This is a part of me and wouldn't you want to know about the person you love? I am more than willing...
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    Hello

    Hi and welcome! I am in a similiar boat as you with my husband and I totally get what it's like to feel alone! I have found great support here so far and learned so much, I am hoping you get the same experience as well. :)
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    Paintings

    Great work! I especially like the 3rd one (girl with the book) :)
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    Polyamory: Married and Dating - Premier July 12th

    I have now watched all the episodes (they were on my dvr). All I can say is Holy Sex! I was going to watch the show with my husband but decided to watch it on my own first and I am kinda of glad I did. Being new to poly, I don't want him to think that it is all about sex. While the show does...
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    Stuck at a stand still

    Hey everyone! I just wanted to get some advice on communicating with my husband. A few months ago I came out to him that I am poly (he is mono) and in hindsight it strengthened our relationship. We really started opening up and having honest conversations, I felt totally connected to him.. even...
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    Lost on a rollercoaster of confusion

    Well I called him out on his passive agressive behavior and cited several examples over the past few days... We discussed that this is something that we are going to work on together... Here's to hoping it works!!!! :)
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    Polyamory: Married and Dating - Premier July 12th

    Glad I saw this post, I have set up my DVR! :)
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    A Whole New World

    I have been with my husband for 6 years (married for 2.5) and we have 2 children together. I feel the same way you just described... it's even harder because I've known this my whole life, just never been able to express it, so mentally I am ready but I know he may not be mentally ready for...
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    Lost on a rollercoaster of confusion

    That is what I did... I told him you kept giving me the green light and I kept saying to him that he needs to tell me if he is really ok with it and he kept saying to go ahead. We had a discussion last night, a female friend of mine wanted to go out and play darts. He told me to go out but I...
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    Lost on a rollercoaster of confusion

    He asked me and I simply stated "I thought you didn't want to know if something has or has not happened". He stated he wanted to know. I've told him that I am ok with taking a step back right now but I explained to him that this is something that is not going to go away and this is something I...
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    Lost on a rollercoaster of confusion

    Yes, I agree, I think it was his way to see if this was just a 'phase', however I explained to him several times that I have always felt this way, I just never knew I wasn't alone in the thought process. He says he is mono and I am the only one for him but I am poly. However given his history...
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    Lost on a rollercoaster of confusion

    We have already been to counseling.... it didn't do much for us, we tried it with more than one therapist too. These last few weeks we have opened up more than ever and I have felt closer to him than ever... I've decided to just pull the reins back on the mono/poly and slowly dip our toes in...
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    A Whole New World

    Thank you Kevin. I have already gotten so much just from reading many of the threads on this site. I am hopeful that it may make this journey a little bit easier for both my husband and myself.
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    Lost on a rollercoaster of confusion

    Hello, The past few weeks have been a crazy rollercoaster so I am not really sure where to start. I recently came out to my husband as being poly. He is mono. We have been working on communication issues and since I told him our communication has been amazing. He has never beent his open and...
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