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UPDATE: OK, so get this. 3 weeks after this whole thing went down, we meet to talk (his suggestion) and I took that as opportunity to give him his things back. He apologizes and tells me I've taught him a valuable lesson in life. But that he was angry with me for reacting the way I did, at...

way to put things in perspective. Actually just received a long text from him today indicating that he is massively pissed off at me for my "behavior" last Friday night (ie when i confronted him in front of his friend). he said that he saw a side of me he would not tolerate and therefore never...

And that's cool if you are honest with whoever you do hook up with from the start and use protection always. Thing with this guy I am talking about is, he lied and said he was only sleeping with me and the other girl. All three of us have been tested and as far as the girl and I know, it's just...

I did get a text saying he apologizes for what happened. he said his intention wasn't to deceive but that he sees how i feel he did. he says i'm important to him and that if i need anything at all that i could let him know. otherwise, he said he'd let me be. he ended his text with 'cheers'...

So, last night, I see him and his highschool friend at the bar where we met exactly three months ago. Long story short, and loaded with liquid courage, I came up to him and asked if we could talk. She comes, too. I ask him why he didn't tell me she was coming for the weekend. He says I'm...

I agree.

I agree. I do believe this guy is convinced he is poly. I don't doubt that one bit. His actions, however, are questionable. I am thinking of how to end this without leaving a trail of bitterness and misery. Any suggestions?

I couldn't have worded that any better...

This is what I am thinking, too. He insists he's poly and has read numerous books about it, but whatever he practices -- whatever it is -- does not feel poly. It just feels dodgy. I agree that poly is about loving, open, and (sometimes) committed relationships - it is one form of responsible...

Strike 3. You're right. He's out.

I just called my doctor. Will go first thing in the morning. However, doc did tell me I have to be tested again in six months. I feel so stupid. But honestly, do you guys think he's just using poly as a beard???

I realize how stupid that is now, too. Thank you for the reality check. I do want your opinion though. Poly or just plain full of shit?

He says he's polyamorous. Help me determine this. We meet. We get along. We go on a couple of dates. We have sex. He then reveals his interest in polyamory. I'm surprised, but I'm open minded and truth be told -- I've been explorying polyamory, too. He's dating ONE other person, who he says...

Thank you for this... I really can't thank everyone here enough for the variety of viewpoints you all are offering me. I know I have to express my needs, but my fear is that I become TOO needy... He's mentioned that my "constant need for reassurance is starting to feel like maintenance". It...

Sorry for the late response. I do appreciate your reply and have reflected on them. Perhaps to him it is uber excessive to text/call me often. I don't know if 'oppressive' is the right word for it, but I understand your point. I realize we have different needs (me and him) and it's something...

What you wrote totally helped. I talked to him about texting/calling at least once a day when he's away and discussed my openness to even meeting her. I am not sure which one his primary is, or if he even prefers to call one of us his primary. I made it known to him that although I have poly...

Thanks :) I actually did suggest that to him upon his return. I'm still learning and to be honest, everything I'm feeling is so new. It's scary but I think ultimately, he is worth it.

Hi there! Thing is, I understand where you and your loves are coming from. From your perspective, you try your best to give them all EQUAL love. All we can ever do as human beings is to TRY. But the reality of it is, when you are with 'A' then 'B' and 'C' can't be with you and therefore...

Don't you want to find someone else to date?

And I do feel neglected. I'm afraid that voicing out my expectations further will only do the following: 1.) Scare him off 2.) Make him think I am a drama queen 3.) Detach 4.) Think I am criticizing him