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It may not necessarily be the case that she sees you as a threat to their relationship. For myself, I don't see C's other interest as a threat to the feelings he has for me. I don't believe he'd leave me to run off with someone else. But what does change, and what can take some getting used to...

One thing I've found that is important to address early on is expectations about time and arrangements, and making sure everyone is on the same page. My very limited experience has been that non-polyamorous people have no framework for how a non-monogamous relationship functions on a practical...

RP, I agree that moving long distance and living together right away is usually a good way to ensure a rocky relationship that ends fairly quickly, whether it's mono or poly. We both had our reservations about it, but at the time I had been unemployed for long enough to run through my savings...

Sage, I so know you feel and you aren't crazy at all. It's hard when your love is spending all their enengy elsewhere and you've got no outlet for yours. It's disappointing and can hurt when you do get to be together and you want to focus on them but they're drained from their other...

Yeah, that's kind of my thought. When I'd met her the three or four times previously, it was in a group setting, and there was no thought of the two of them developing a romantic relationship, so none of that had come up. I just really liked her, thought we had a lot in common, and she seemed...

Thanks for your responses! Yes, I'm monoamorous. Clark has identified as poly for many years, but has only been able to live it since I've been with him. I was previously involved with a guy who self-identified as poly, but I'd say it more closely resembled poly-fuckery than polyamory, and he...

I'm not really new to poly. I'm mono, but I'm new to a healthy poly dynamic that works. I've been lurking here for almost the year that I've been with my boyfriend. (I'll call him Clark.) You guys seem really nice. Sage and Mono, in particular, have been very inspirational to me. So now that...