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I operate in a lot of "alternative parenting" circles. In these situations, I've learned to stand up for my point of view without engaging people in discussions or conversations about issues. DO NOT try to defend yourself, because this gives them an opening to argue with you, and makes them feel...

I'm sorry I have to address this part I italicized. Mormons have not practiced Polygamy for over 100 years. Fundamentalist Mormons (who have been cut off completely from the main stream Mormon Church, and if they ever were a part of the mainstream Mormon Church are excommunicated on...

I think for many, if not most, experienced poly people age becomes yet one other smaller factor in overall attraction to people. The more experience you get in Poly the less likely you are to say "here's the relationship dynamic I want, who fits it?" and you're more likely to say "I met this...

I've been sort of following this and this actually really upsets/concerns me. It seems that you are now being guilted for having your feelings and reactions. They are the feelings you had; it's not necessarily something you can control. You are trying to find a way to work through them, not only...

Mr Clean is Bald and has been idolized and drooled over by housewives for YEARS! ;)

My situation is far different as my primary relationship is unable to bear more children. So in our case we would be very happy to have children from a secondary relationship (I.E. a secondary and myself) as long as they were also comfortable with the situation. I think children and poly all...

I wanted to comment on this because it struck me and brought to mind a poem I wrote in High School. I don't have the actual words to the poem anymore, and it's very mono in basis anyway but the idea behind it was that as human beings our hearts are not pristine glass displays or gemstones, they...

Unfortunately what you're saying and the reality of your situation do not mesh. You may not "believe" she is poly, but by what she's told you and what she is doing she is telling you otherwise, even if you don't want to believe it. You've agreed to this for now, and you need to find a way to...

Often the things that bring out the most emotion in us in regards to those we love is the things that we dislike about ourselves. If she has been feeling true guilt, self-hatred, anything like that for "daring to love someone else, especially a woman" and having an "emotional affair" (I hate...

Unfortunately going to bed earlier and getting up early is not an option for face time here unless I want to give up my time with S, and that is not an option for me. She is my first priority when it comes to relationships. The issue is she works nights so she will never be an early riser as...

Unfortunately, yes this is unusual enough to have a name for it. Most of the parents my age I know put their kids in their rooms at night, and block the door some way, and the child stays in there regardless with the parent at most coming back in to say "go to sleep". L and I are possibly...

I wanted to thank you (and everyone else) for looking beyond the initial view here. I really do want to be happy/excited and *for now* I haven't show them (L and B) otherwise (though I have discussed it with S). I think you hit the nail on the head in that I'd just like to have things going...

I think there are many factors to why I'm not happy and celebrating. First, this will make 6 children in the household, 5 under the age of 5 at the time the baby is born (really 5 under 4 for a few months). Secondly I think it draws into stark contrast the fact that I may never have another...

Lemons are only for those adventurous enough to handle a kick to their fruit. ;-)

It should be exciting news, it really should, but it's NOT for me. It's making me very very sad and very very nervous and I just want to cry. I posted recently about a brand new relationship that was attempting to develop in my house: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=21713...

I just wanted to update this. After staying up until 5am Wednesday evening just talking to S all night and trying to process everything and get to a decent place with this I took both Thursday and Friday off work for personal days. We managed over my very very long weekend to have multiple...

S and I spent most of my work day talking. She feels horrible and words from her own mouth "I feel like I cheated. It's not poly if I don't okay it with you first so let's call it what it is." She basically said at this point the ball is in my court with anything further or calling a dead...

A little bit of background would probably serve well. My partner is a male to female transsexual (not necessarily relevant here but just part of what makes us us) so I've supported her through a lot. We had both agreed we were poly before she ever started her transition or even told me she was...

OMG-- and it just moves faster! The guy that I mentioned in my previous post that I met on PMM is totally a male unicorn. He came over to hang out Tuesday. We had no real plans. We were just going to play things by ear. Well, he came over Tuesday at 5:00 pm... and didn't end up leaving until...

Okay, I'm really new to all of this. I've read threads, followed things, etc., but I've never actually had a poly relationship. I joined polymatchmaker a bit ago and instantly saw this profile that just struck a chord with me. I started IMing the guy the other day. This is only the 2nd day...