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Just a vent Today I saw that thread show back up again. You know the one, some newbie wanting a triad and suddenly finding themselves on the losing end of a conversation about Unicorns. Having been on the backside of that one myself at the beginning, it got me thinking. There is no one on this...

Lord love a duck....I think if you simply include the above in any of your dating profiles, you won't have to worry about mentioning poly. Of course, the mass migration of Brits throwing themselves off the cliffs into the sea to get away from you might cause your whole country to tip sideways...

Since The Pidge and I aren't actively seeking to meet people yet, I won't ever get to see your profiles on dating sites unless you PM me a copy--if you want to do that, I'd love to read them. (I have some time in my schedule today for pointing and laughing...:p) I guess we can go one of two...

You make a really good point, and phrased it better than I have. Being around people in general who add to your quality of life by being who they are and sharing their time with you...I'm going to steal that bit.:D Not sure how on topic you'll find this, but I did learn one thing this year...

Again, it sounds as though we are saying the same thing. You state that a person is responsible for making changes in their life and not relying on others to make them happy. I stated failing to take responsibility for being proactive in making myself happy inevitably brought me a poor result...

I may have phrased it slightly differently, including desiring a new relationship as one of many ways of making one's own happiness, but to me it sounds as though we are basically saying the same thing.:confused:

It's probably reasonable to assume that different approaches work for different people, no "one size fits all" formula. I have simply noted that in my own experience as my age increases, the number of people deciding to approach me has decreased, requiring me to put forth a greater effort to...

You are such a dork.:) It's a good thing you're pretty. I also said "hubris", a bit of vocabulary I thought might redeem me for the poop. Now get back on topic, we've drifted into the Land Of Wacky.

Better seems to me to be a subjective determination. Perhaps when I was much younger, the "not looking" approach was fine, boys seemed to fall out of the trees with no effort on my part. Several decades later, this is not the case. Like almost everything else in life, now if I want something I...

Observation Im new here so please view this as just my two cents, not advice. I have read this thread from the beginning. You have really been through an emotional journey with this, and I'm sorry because it sounds like it has hurt a lot. My question is where is your love for yourself...

That whole feeling inadequate thing is a rough one. At some point (it seems to me) a person simply has to think well enough of themselves that they can let go, and accept that even though they might not meet every need for someone else, they're exactly who and what they should be at the present...

Not criticism, just another confused thought thrown on the pile... After reading a lot here, I might guess that "being poly" means it is a natural, full-time desire to have multiple relationships most of the time. It is that person's natural state, necessary to meeting their needs. "Using...

Given the reportedly high numbers of polyamorous people in my state, I am beginning to think that the gatherings have gone from public to private, and they're all just doing things with their friends now. I wish the group they called poly 101 was still active, but it has been listed as DOA also...

Yes, it's a bit odd. I just went to their site again to make sure I understood correctly. Since my last visit there, I see the circle discussion group has changed its status to inactive, and no longer has monthly meetings. Were they perhaps so exclusive they eventually ran out of members? The...

This touches on something I have been wondering about too. My partner and I agreed to dedicate one full year to learning about ethical non-monogamy, talking about our feelings, addressing issues between ourselves, all before we took the step of actually starting to meet new people socially. We...

Quotes repaired.

An excellent article Malfunktions, I've been doing some reading and thought you might find this article of use. I've snipped some key parts (key for me) and put them here, as well as a link to the entire article. This was written by Edward Martin III, and is found at his website Welcome To...

Well, in some ways it has nothing to do with us. People who have gone before have created a certain dynamic that is viewed in a certain way, and we are just showing up at the end of the party and being told about what a huge mess there is to clean up. I try not to take it personally, since I...

I do hear what you're saying. It can become very awkward very quickly, as I found out on another site, when a basic question I asked turned into a 3 page hassle between other posters (I jumped for safety and stayed out of that). It's hard when you feel your motives are benign, and your desires...

Hey kc Maybe for us it's a glass half full/half empty thing. Yes, we spent a long time exploring paths that didn't go where we want to be. It's so easy for that to feel like wasted time. Half empty? But we still have time left to try new things, learn new things, become more at ease with...