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I have no problem with a non-sexual relationship, and would actually encourage this, due to the fact that people offer different things to different people. The source of most of my anguish is over the fact that they wish to have the same type of relationship that my wife has with me, including...

I have a question. Is it not a choice to put yourself in a position to fall in love with someone? It's not like it happens overnight. You feel yourself connecting to someone, becoming attracted to someone. It seems that you have a choice to put yourself in that position. Is it that monos are...

Thank you all for your support and insight. I have started to read the book "The Secret of Letting Go" to see if this will help me to release my fears and become more comfortable with this. I love Brynn more than anyone I have ever loved. I want her to get everything out of this life she...

I seem to be having issues with wanting to remain friends with Brody, I have such anger towards him. I know that Brynn gets frustrated with me because, no matter how many time she tells me that she loves me and will not leave me, she feels I do not listen. I hear her, but the words are hard to...

Rough Day Yesterday was a great day for Brynn and me. We went to the beach to help her parents with the cottage. A day filled with laughter and love. Today I woke alone in bed and knew where she was, upstairs with Brody. All my emotions came running back. Why can I not remove these feelings...

NYCindie, You are right. For me, sex has a lot of meaning. It is when you are at your most vulnerable and most intimate. It is reaching for that ultimate connection with someone that is very special to you. I believe that if sex had no meaning, then why wear clothes? Everyone would be having...

Just3 [Chris], Thank you for your input. It is nice to read about others issues and relationship successes. We still need to talk about a lot of things. It will probably take me awhile to be comfortable with this, if we decide to do it. I know a lot of my issues are insecurity, fear and...

River, Thank you for your words of encouragement. I will start to think of myself. It has been a long time since I have done so. I am the type of person that will usually put others in front of myself. Their happiness is my happiness. But along the way, I have lost my happiness, if that makes...

Having a bad day. My mind is racing again. I have such anger towards Brody that I do not know if our friendship will last. The strange thing is, Brynn has been spending a lot of time with me and not a lot with Brody. I do not know if she is trying to prove that I am still important to her or...

Thank you for your sympathy. I wish there were an easy fix to this. I love her so much. Last night we had a long talk with a lot of tears from both of us. I think she now realizes how much pain this is causing me. I know she is in pain too. We need to figure out how to make this work. She...

Was your husband always so willing to let you have this freedom, or did he have issues with it? If he did, how did you overcome these issues? I have never really been a secure person to begin with, and right now even less so. I have so much fear of the future now. I could see the future in my...

I guess what I do not understand is what makes this so wonderful. What does everyone get out of this? What are the benefits? For someone like me, who is mono, it just seems like cheating with permission. I am in no way knocking this; I am just trying to understand. I have asked them numerous...

Hello all, I'm new to this whole thing and frightened to no end. My wife of 4 years, Brynn, has recently told me that she is in love with my best friend, Brody, who lives upstairs from us. And he is in love with her. I am a mono person, so this is very hard for me. Brynn would like to start to...