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I don't think anybody here thought you were an evil bastard for a second. With Trent out of the picture, it might be a good time to think about NYCindie's advice some pages back about The Healing Separation.

Right, so... ahem. Still not naming him. Right now we're not officially anything. We just both enjoy one another's company and are exploring our mutual attraction, and right now that involves sex. I'm not reading into it or trying to force things into some kind of serious/committed relationship...

Right... ahem. So that was a rant. Anyway. Moving right along... So the kissing/nekkid-pics-that-weren't/roommie's brother/dude-who-I-hesitate-to-name has been either busy or withdrawn, somewhat. He hasn't said anything about the links I sent him. Good sign, though - after a day or two of...

I'm so sorry. :( You've been putting in so much effort. You're right; it isn't fair.

Knight resurfaced. He's been essentially silent since calling things off and sending me a sappy music video in some semblance of an apology (Jason Mraz' Absolutely Zero, if anyone cares) a couple days later. I'd been trying to both give him space by minimizing contact, and also emphasize that I...

Hee. Well, it's all relative, I suppose.

I know, right? That's kind of what I was thinking, but I'm trying to be hands-off, no pressure... He's actually not THAT young, though. He's 35.

Yeah... I worry about establishing boundaries about this particular situation because so far, the situation with this guy is relatively unacknowledged. It'd be so much easier if I didn't live with his sister; we could just go on with life as "friends" and nobody would need to be the wiser. I...

Right now we're all sharing a lease. She and I are the primary lease holders, and our respective men are listed as "occupants" on the lease. She and I moved in together originally, and later on Romeo moved in, right around the time she met and moved her husband in. I don't think I'd be...

OK, you know what? Screw it. I just made a profile on roommates.com. It's a long shot - we've got a dog and a cat (both little, but still), but who knows. It could happen. If it does, it'd be a welcome relief.

Believe it or not, she's 30. But yes, your description of the people you hung around with in your 20s sounds very similar. She has this idea in her head of "common sense", which consists of her own personal views and anything else is, to her, obviously wrong or stupid or both. I've come to...

Well, we went out for dinner and a movie on Friday night. Neither of us called it a date, but it had all the stereotypical date components - dinner, a movie, and an "I had a really nice time tonight" a the end, LOL. :p At the end of the night (which really dragged on into the early morning...

Oh thank goodness! It was a joke, not a naked pic. Turned out it was a cartoon or something. I stole your idea, nycindie, and sent him a picture of my cat with the same caption you used. He got a kick out of that. I'm so relieved! LOL. His charm points meter shot back up. :p And... he text me...

Well, again last night Romeo went out with some friends and I went to that guy's place, and we both stayed out late. The guy and I totally made out. We hadn't kissed since that time last weekend. It was really nice. :o I think I like this guy. He suggested we go watch a movie this weekend...

Good luck. BTW, I love Within Temptation. Very poignant song, that one, especially with the perspective of your situation in mind.

Oh, I agree. I guess it was the permanence of it. It just sounded like a forever thing that he was resigning himself to. I think that a struggle is normal, but it should get easier later, right? I hope?

That makes sense, too. (Maybe I should preface or end my posts with something like, "I'm a newbie, so take my words with a grain of salt!" :p) Still, though, I wouldn't want my relationship with my partner to be like a disability that he learned to live with. That seems like more negative than...

This part worries me. On the one hand, I think it's pretty early to tell that you will never be happy with something (but then, that's because I try and avoid always/never/all/nothing statements in general), so I think it'd possibly be rash to make a decision based on that right now. On the...

I don't really have much useful to say, but I'm following your thread and... I dunno, thinking supportive thoughts. You're a good guy, RC. Hang in there.

Hmm. Romeo went out with some friends last night, and he said one of them posed an interesting question that he didn't know how to answer, and he thought maybe I could help him think about it. The question was, "Don't you think you're limiting your potential options for girlfriends with your...