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Update: we've been working very extensively together. There is still a lot to sort out. But for the most part, they finally understand not only that they hurt me, but why it hurt, and how harsh it was. The acknowledge what they did to me was more than unfair. And how they treated me...

Brief update: guess who's making everyone go into therapy? It is very fortunate that there are many therapists who are friendly to alternative lifestyles and conflicts. She has been excellent in explaining medication interactions and that my extreme reactions are actually normal for (warning...

I think you're right, Ivy. That sounds best. Thanks.

Oh God did I scream at him. And screamed. And shouted. And cried hysterically. I screamed he triggered me with his actions. His reactions. His cheating and then groping the woman he cheated on me with in front of me... and being so dense as not not even realize it might bother me. One...

apologies... I'll get the hang of this..

So it's been left to me to juggle my emotions with finding a way to get us all on the same page, to set up rules and boundaries that are reasonable for everyone. This while I deal with some old PTSD issues that have reared their head again. This while I have to tell them again and again...

http://www.jacksonkatz.com/ http://www.jacksonkatz.com/wmcd.html I like this guy. Of course not agreeing with every single little point, but good stuff.

Hmmm....best match so far is Vee.

Awesome. The statement of that officer that women wouldn't be assaulted if they didn't dress like sluts is a terrible stereotype and it puts the onus on the woman for the other person's reactions. I think to myself "how terrible is that? That a police officer would say outright other people...

Thank you everyone for the replies. For what it's worth I was using IRL discussions that do seem to vary quit a bit from the glossary. Human relationships are a challenge. :D

I'm not sure what you mean...is there something like an official Manual of Poly terms that I should be aware of? I had been given to understand unicorns are single (uncoupled females) and one of the first responses on here was "you're not a unicorn because you're not bi." Now I'm being told...

I like to think about things a few days before I answer... redpepper: "It sounds like the boundaries you have with them are not firm and need some clarification." Originally, I was told my boundries and rules were too restrictive. So I relaxed them. That was my mistake. And I did say it was...

"Please don't be offended by this, but it doesn't sound like you're dating a couple. You don't even seem to like this woman--which isn't good, if you do like her husband." Honestly, I'm not offended. Without going into too much detail, she knows she lacks maturity, she knows her method of...

The guy of my couple is extremely sorry and feels terrible. The gal is the sort who feels bad, has a good cry about how she feels bad, and then moves on... nice girl but lacks maturity. They were annoyed with me because I chose my studies (Ochem II final) for a few weeks over their...

Long story short: your couple says they wronged you (they played with someone else), ever so sorry, how can we make it up to you? Problem: no idea. I have never had anyone offer to make amends... and this after the female of my couple tried to get out of guilt by saying "well the past is the...

Thank you Magdyln. Did not quite occur to me that I should try to keep it in format. Duh. So no one is rushing anything and I am trying so very hard to not be unfair. Although at times it feels I am pulling teeth and breaking down their illusions and defenses and even lies. It turns out...

Here is an interesting development maybe in our talks the three of us have had. when he said "do you want to ask me something you haven't before" it was a major hint he hadn't said something and so I said "what were you thinking that night you played and chose to play and didn't even tell...

So I was resolved to move on painful though it would be and I told them it was time for me to go because I wouldn't stop crying and I did not need them to tell me I was petulant or that my pain was petty or I was overreacting "just because it was a little play" And I told him he was not the...

I pretty much figured from the tone of the note You were being kind Carma.

"do you want to submit a bill, now?" No. I simply didn't wish to pay for their dance