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BOTH of you don't need to air this out in a forum. Don't do it. Talk to one another - instead of at each other here. Don't continue, for your own sakes. Show some maturity, don't become fodder for online drama fans.

I don't know, eventually a nice Ferris wheel keeps looking attractive once you've barfed enough on the other rides. Ya get tired of some adventures that take too many of your conscious thoughts and start wanting to have others that aren't so negatively taxing. Explorers don't always climb...

You seem to have a lot of these moments lately, then you regroup and recharge. Are you past your limitations of quantity to be consistently satisfied, without needing to have these negative feelings? Or is this just a blog rant that's quickly dismissed once you're back to being satisfied? I ask...

Nice to see you taking an active role! But I wonder, why the haste at such requirements? Your motivations here are curious to an outsider like me, considering your previous self-stated issues and the fact that your ex seems to be able to get a free pass - when likely as not she's got the same...

Wow. Harsh. Read through the posts of both OP and her husband before pulling out the abuser card. I haven't gotten that impression, and think its a little dramatic to start flailing on any side. This is recent, all within the last 60 days, and passions are running hot. I think things might...

Seriously, you're saying this? Really? Sad for you, BG. Even if this post was meant to be supportive, it doesn't seem to be coming from an objective place. I wish you well, and presume the OP doesn't take it as seriously as all that. It isn't.

Coming from a legal analyst raised in poverty and sent to abysmal day care(i.e. take this opinion with some salt): Regardless of cost and provided they have some healthy degree of stimulation, there's not much difference in outcome between gold, silver and bronze level child care. Just parents...

Re-read quite a few posts and had a smattering of thoughts and reactions in a stream of consciousness way: Not to be obtuse or anything, but why does anything need to be addressed anytime soon (aside from the move)? Your husband is who he is, and not changing about his feelings towards her...

Ever heard of the expression that 'your mind creates your reality'? I'm not sure how you project to the people you talk about in real life, but based on your writing you seem to go through a lot of times where you internally devalue yourself and people around you as a kind of negative...

Having once been in a similar position, I think the idea that Matt felt usurped is likely true. Once you've gotten to that point with an outsider, there's really no chance of being friends (beyond normal civility for a few moments) with them again. Regardless of what your spouse might think of...

It's a bit of a tough situation to accommodate both sides from a position of having emotional attachment to both. That you're playing the middle person is a choice you're making to keep the peace, and that's probably the best you can do. Speaking from father's point of view, I've had people in...

OKC is hit or miss depending on where you live and what you're looking for. Be honest in your profile and keep your fingers crossed that you'll meet some good people along the way, as it never hurts to try. There are plenty of posts on here about that site, by the way. You may want to search for...

Can you format your post to include some paragraph breaks? A lot of people here will probably agree its much easier to read when its not a big blob of words.

Why are you even talking about it instead of doing something about it? You're just a convenient babysitter, nothing more. Don't just talk about doing better than that - make it happen! For yourself and your children. If not, and things are really the way you describe - then your wife's BF is...

I don't think cheating or any other sort of unethical behavior is inherently tied to a person's orientation. I've seen some utterly vicious, unethical and horrid behavior from poly and mono people alike. That in moving from mono to poly you remove a boundary to previously forbidden fruit does...

Hilarious, sad, utterly true in many cases, and a too often overlooked group of subjects for many people.

Who's to say what suits people better? In my time, I've seen relationships that label themselves swinging but appear polyamorous, and vice-versa. While for you, polyamory is about love, first and foremost, I personally don't think having multiple partners makes poly any more about love than...

I've always thought that many 'modern' men place more value on their penis size than in further developing their skills as lovers. Fascinating since they have no control over something they worry greatly about, and complete control over something they do very little about. Macho male culture...

A better place to get responses to this might be a swinger or hotwife forum. Most of the people here tend to focus on emotional and practical issues. Or even better for you might be Betty Dodson's site. Top notch people there for questions just like this.

Does your husband actually know any of these thoughts that you're having? Have you considered communicating any of this to him before proceeding? Since you haven't provided much detail of what's wrong with your marriage, there's not a lot to go on. I'd say, more than anything, it looks like...