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We went to a course together today, all of us. For me, I didn't feel anything uncomfortable. My husband did, but he got over it very fast. I think she got over it quickly as well. I loved seeing the way they look at her. I know he looks at me the same way, just in love, happy, as if he is...

Good advice. Although not literally (I hate math and keeping score of "she got 2 lunches and 3 hotels, which is the same as 4 dinners and 2 walks together"...) But in general, make sure that my own quota of feeling romantic with him is fulfilled. It is a bit difficult, since she doesn't live...

The thing I love about this situation is how it makes me examine my own feelings and my relationship with my husband. We were definitely in a strong relationship and there are no doubts about the love we feel for each other. Yet, we did fall into a bit of a taking each other for granted...

Have you thought about counseling? It seems that having someone else there who can help you ask the right questions and help her feel safe in answering them might help you guys a lot. Sometimes the way we ask things can come across as an attack, or as an accusation even when we don't mean it...

Hi! A few things which are important (I think) to think about before moving in: (not meaning that you shouldn't move in, but meaning that these things should be clear between the adults before moving in) 1. Educating your kids. This might be different for the 4 year old and the 11 year old...

Sometimes I think it would have been much easier if they would have gotten together a year earlier or a year later. Without hormones and all the pregnancy complications. Even simple things are more complicated right now. I'm more or less over him not being here most evenings and some nights...

It seems that she is cramping today, so that is good news :) Both for her and for everybody (she doesn't want children right now!) Tomorrow we are all going to go to a first aid course for babies and children, the first time we are all together. I'm ok with that, looking forward to the course...

How long have you been in the relationship? A friend of mine put it very well... If a couple is monogamous and gets pregnant or has a small child, nobody would accept them saying "you know what, being monogamous is too difficult right now. Better open things up until things are more relaxed"...

Thanks. Not much sense in panicking or being upset, it is one of the known risks of having sex, and if you don't want to take the risk, do that've sex (or don't be ok with your partner having sex).

Shit just got real. She might be pregnant. Accident obviously, and most likely she is not, but she is late. But she is also very irregular and has had a lot of stress in the last few weeks. They used just condoms for the last month or so. She was/is planning on additional birth control, this...

I agree with you. If you take for example my parents; both well in their fifties, successful business people both, not stupid in general. Yet when it comes to "the golden rule" they have a very literal view point. If they like it, everybody should like it. If they find something weird, it IS...

Then we would have to talk about it, see where we can reach a compromise. Not sharing anything is impossible and not healthy in my opinion, since we already share the same guy... If she is fighting with him, I'd like to know why he is so stressed. That's sharing. If he needs to stay at home...

:) I think that a good "rule" is "treat others as they want to be treated, in so far as you (and the other people involved) feel comfortable doing so". And sometimes that means a compromise in which all parties need to step outside of their comfort zone a bit. And nothing wrong with that...

Oh, it absolutely is some deep insecurity. No argument from me. And while I work on this insecurity, I need some basic security to feel safe enough to effectively work on it. And he can help me by sharing as much as he (and she of course) is comfortable sharing, even if his natural instinct is...

But this seems counter productive for a healthy relationship, at least to me. For example: I prefer complete openness and knowing all the details, including sexual ones, about my husbands relationships. He prefers to not know anything or as little as possible and only in so far as it matters...

I've been involved with personal development for a very long time, I am a master NLP Practitioner, Hypnotherapist and Time Technique Practitioner, as well as life coach :) I personally believe that nobody else is responsible for my feelings besides me and that being "at cause" is the secret to...

I have issues with control when I am emotionally not feeling very well. When I'm feeling insecure, sad, etc, and it is too subtle for me to notice, I usually notice because my need for control goes up tremendously. It is a good way to see how well I'm doing emotionally :) So far the best way to...

Yes. I think that is another one of the reasons why I haven't been taking "advantage" of having sex with other people in the last few years. I want to have that connection where I am at least infatuated with someone. That infatuation can last only one night, or longer, but it has to be there for...

For what it is worth, I'm very similar to your husband. I also want each and every detail. Of course, I am not him and I don't know if he wants it for the same reasons.... But for me the reason was NOT to check up, to grill for information or to check if nothing is being hidden. For me the...

Please, don't be sorry. I do think it helped (among other things) to snap me out of my "oh, poor me" mode that I was in. I feel stronger, more capable and more normal again, so that is a good thing.