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(This is a bit long.) Until about 36 hours ago, I was in a loving relationship with my boyfriend, Jack, of over a year. We have been friends for even longer than that. Jack and I had some bumps early on in our relationship, in that he tried to date me along with his wife, Cait. He kept...

I am realizing that, while I have never had a partner who said an unkind word against my primary partner, my primary partner has been in several situations where partners or would-be partners of his were not nearly that respectful towards me, to put it mildly. I am also realizing that I have a...

OK, I don't know if my experience is typical, but I have had more than one first date with a poly man who was...not so fresh. The first two times, I wouldn't have been interested in dating them even if they were neatly groomed and smelled like a field of wildflowers, but I just met someone whom...

I am thinking of a situation where a poly person has two partners, one primary, one not primary, and the non-primary lover wants something that directly conflicts with what the primary lover wants. I have been having difficulties with my primary partner (a very loving 28-year relationship)...

I am wondering if anyone has symptoms of PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) that can be specifically triggered by a specific polyamorous situation. I do. Almost five years ago my primary, D, and I went through a very difficult period together. In his pursuit of another relationship, his...

I already posted a little while back about my partner D and his potential partner R, whom I was not trusting because of her failure to disclose the existence of a sexual partner she had before sexual contact happened between her and D. The full story is in the first post here...

D is my primary partner. He has a secondary partner, C, as well. He has also been interested in R for a while. The relevant history is as follows. D was ready to date R about nine months ago and I fully supported it. We are all poly. They did hang out a few times and made out but stopped short...

I just wanted to share a funny experience I had this morning. I received a very nice email from a well-spoken, attractive, local man expressing frustration with bad dating behavior on a site we are both on. He asked me if I ever felt discouraged about finding partners. I wrote back and told him...

My primary partner, D, has two lovers, me and his brand-new secondary partner C. He is interested in starting a sexual relationship with someone else, R. The problem is that D isn't very interested in sex to begin with most of the time. He has a fairly low libido and suffers from frequent...

My male partner, D, started seeing a female acquaintance of both of ours, M, several months ago. I have always liked M and was happy at the idea of D having a potential relationship with her. When we first met M, she was in a serious relationship with a woman, but told us that she identified as...

This could, I suppose, be a mono issue as well, but polyamory complicates it. I had a very difficult relationship end a couple of years ago because my partner was very obviously lying to me about some matters of principle. The situation included a female metamour whom I know for a fact tried...

Ugh. I have a situation now that is troubling to me and I would love to get some opinions from impartial people who are not involved in the situation. I have a long-distance OSO who is very important to me, but whom I only get to see about four weekends a year. So far, half of those weekends...

So I just had my umpteenth person online respond to "No, thanks, I am not interested in dating you" with "I think you're (mean, rude, fat, ugly, stupid, or some combo of those) and I don't want to date you either, SO THERE!" I don't date women on their own, so I have only run into this with...

I have a good male friend who would like to be more to me, and I am very fond of him, but we are stuck at an impasse that I don't see us getting out of. I was curious what others would think of our situation. I met J. on a dating site and we became friends and talked about having a poly...

I was contacted by a somewhat older gentleman on a poly site, whose profile included this: I am not trying to change anyones present situation (well maybe a piece of it) but rather to add some REAL excitement to our lives. I wrote to him and told him that if he was cheating on his wife, he...

I've posted a little about this already, but the issue is just getting more complicated. I have been in a long-distance secondary relationship for a year, with a wonderful man whom I get to see every 2 or 3 months. I live with my husband, and boyfriend lives with his wife. Neither of us has any...

Hi fellow polys. I'm new here. My issue is as follows. I have a very good friend and he and I just slept together for the first time. He's a great guy, he's honest, there is mutual caring and respect, I get along with his wife, he gets along with my husband, we're all poly and everything should...