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Sure! I have plenty of chocolate and wine. Come on over! :D

I travel a lot so being away from home is "normal" these days. Here are some of the things I do when I am on the road alone: I see tons of movies - especially chick flicks I go to coffee shops for hot chocolate while I read or study I go to bookstores to get more books because I finish them...

My first thought when I read this was, "Oh hell, no!" I am not going to clean the house, change the sheets and prepare for a guest, then have to exit my home, then come home and clean up after them again. And I can guaran-damn-tee that he isn't going to be the one on hands and knees making sure...

Being poly means many different things to different people. For some, it means there is a third person with whom you are both engaged in a relationship. For others, only one of you is engaged in another relationship. At my house, we are both free to seek relationships with other people. We also...

I totally understand wanting your own house back. It's like having out of town company - after a few days, it gets old and they need to leave. I read your comment about being on your best behavior and imagined you playing the gracious hostess - which is hard to sustain for long periods of time...

Fayerweather hit the nail on the head for me. All I can say is "ditto". But, ImaginaryIllusion's version was funny too - though for me it was grades 9-12 that were pretty yucky.

She's cheating. I can only speak for myself when I say that I believe cheating comes with lying and deception - not the kind of traits I find in people with strong integrity and character, and certainly the kind of traits I try hard to avoid in any kind of relationship.

For me it was when I was writing a personal ad for my hubby and he was reading it over my shoulder. When I finished I said, "if that won't get you laid, nothing ever will." We both burst into laughter.

What does yours look like?

I am with Ariakas and Vodkafan. I don't really want to know all the details. He has his. I have mine. We each clear outings with the other person, just to make sure there aren't any other plans getting messed up. I want to know where he is and when to expect him home. Other than that, the rest...

Umm...no...wait, let me think about it for another nano-second...yeah, it's still a no. I can only speak for myself, but the first time being a 3 or 4-some would have been a total disaster. The first time there was already enough going on physically and emotionally without having it multiplied.

To Fayerweather - Interesting post, and it made me want to tell you that I am impressed that you recognize that the relationships are different and that behavior from one may not "fit" the other very well at all. Being "fair" isn't about being treated the exact same way. It's about treating...

Your life isn't defined by this particular moment in which you find yourself. Relationships come. Some hang around for a while. Nearly all of them eventually run their course and you move on. Are you still hanging out with those folks in middle school you thought were your forever friends? What...

For me, sex comes after the emotional connection. Otherwise, it just feels like I am being used.

I used to drive over an hour each way to work everyday - I don't consider that long distance. If you can drive there, have a nice long date, and drive back in the same day, it's not long distance.

I was liking it, until last night when the husband said the thought of one of his wives being with another man disgusted him and made him sick to his stomach.

I find that I stew about it for a while - fantasize about revenge plots and "what if's." Then when the hot emotions dissipate, I can think about it rationally. I'm sure there are more mature ways to process the emotions and thoughts. Fortunately, I don't get angry all that often. I guess it's a...

How do you do it? What do you do?

I am finding that staying busy and focused helps a little bit. Working out helps a little bit too. These will have to do until the homonal couple of days of "egg week" pass by.

I am an extrovert, usually. Sometimes I like solitude when I need to recharge. There are sometimes when I feel alone. Not sure how else to describe it - maybe meloncholy? Sometimes I recognized when it's hormonally induced. This time I think that, in combination with some medical issues...