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I wonder if it would help you to have a boundary for now that before he makes plans with his girlfriend he needs to check in with you and that you will have a set time that you will have your husband back? I don't know how it works usually in poly relationships but I would feel really...

Can I just point out that almost everyone thinks they have found the partner of their dreams when they first meet (especially when young, and 24 is really young, especially if it's a first serious relationship)? I really don't believe in soulmates. I think there are so many people out there we...

As long as you're allowing the other person to comunicate back, even if you don't like the message (which may be, I'm overloaded with talk right now, lets take a break) then I don't think there is any such thing as overcommunication. Some people may be uncomfortable with the level you...

I really hesitate to reply, feeling like such a newbie. But,reading this, I keep thinking about how I reconnect with my husband when we start to feel unsettled. We've been together 12 years too, but I frequently still feel bowled over by love and excitement at being with him. We have shared a...

Did this get made into a new thread? I've been thinking about this a lot.

I'm just beginning to explore with my husband (S), and talking about exploring it with A. I am completely enthralled at the moment by the intense emotions brought up by my husband hitting me. I spend all my time thinking about it. I've spent the last 12 years enjoying doing subtle things like...

I'm in the UK, so my taxes don't pay for things for you but we pay our taxes towards the schools and we home educate our own. I wouldn't want to stop paying for them though.

Personally, I wouldn't be comfortable keeping those things to myself. I would be very unhappy if my husband were keeping similar things from me, and I don't see how wanting complete honesty from your partner is wanting to own them. I'm a huge believer in radical honesty in committed...

I think my husband (S) is feeling a lot of these hard emotions at the moment although he actually seems to cope fine when the three of us have been together (but then it was always normal for me to cuddle our friend (A) long before any of this) its just afterwards when I'm emailing or calling...

I spent a really lovely time the other evening under orders to massage my husband's feet. I was so happy. I love that kind of touching, really being able to explore a part of him in such detail.

When hubby and I were apart for 3 months when I was pregnant with our second child we each set up webcams that we could activate remotely. I had mine in the living room where I was with our daughter and he had his in his bedroom (he was sharing a house with others and spending most of his time...

That's pretty much how I've always felt about my husband, Immaterial. We decided a couple of years ago that each of us would always give the other person chance to join in with any activity before doing it alone. It's actually been a whole load of fun, and really bonding for the two of us...

I totally agree. If hubby and I need to have a serious conversation we've found that sitting at opposite sides of the room makes us more likely to end up arguing over it. If we sit entwined with each others bodies the tone is utterly different and we are much more likely to work together to find...

I love touching. Its a huge need for me. I've read the love languages book too, it was one of the first things that made a lightswitch go off in my head about my marriage and how we were each missing the things we did to be loving. My hubby's main language is acts of service. I never used to...

I think having a longterm good relationship between the parents of the child (that hopefully lasts for life) is of course a good thing. I also think having different people appearing and disappearing in a child's life is bad. That doesn't mean that what you do in private would have any effect...

LR.. that sounds awesome, thankyou for sharing. I am so looking forwards to exploring this all so much more with my hubby.

Thats lovely to know. Reading some of your threads especially, I am beginning to think that relationships differ not because of how they're defined (or by how many people are involved) but simply by how much you can both/all really give to them.

Monogamy, for me, so far, has meant the time to really know someone, to tell them everything that goes on in my heart and head and for them to know intimately how I've changed over the time we've been together. It has meant us being a team, us versus the world, which was and is just what I need...

Interesting post. I can only add my thoughts on sacrifice. I think its normal for us to have to sacrifice some things in order to get other things in life. However, I don't think this leads to healthy relationships, simply because it implies someone gaining at the expense of the other. I...

Thankyou very much! I was thinking how much this year of not seeing him has been helpful in allowing us to have some of the NRE stuff die down before we moved on at all. My husband has been so so wonderful this whole weekend, he took the kids out to the park on the Sunday morning so our friend...