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What do you want to understand? I have been very happily monogamous for 11 years, and I know I could be for life, although once again it looks like I may be straying slightly from that path... I have adored my life for the last 11 years, my husband being my best friend, knowing everything...

So I take it starting a water fight on a walk in hopes of getting spanked for it later is being a brat? :) That would be me, I guess. My hubby was always fairly reluctant to explore this area with me, so I guess I got my kicks, so to speak, by getting him to playfight with me and overpower me...

Its been a few months since I posted on here. My ex came to visit again this weekend after I hadn't seen him for a whole year. We had emailed a fair amount and spoken on the phone a few times. My husband had managed to meet up with him on 3 occasions through the year as they are good friends but...

I'm still monogamous and no longer thinking of changing that, after researching and thinking a lot about polyamoury for a few months. I try to be completely honest with my husband, all the time. I tell him everything in as loving a way as possible but it seems like honesty is not valued at all...

Hi, I posted here a little while ago because I was having feelings for someone other than my husband. So here's my update, lol. We're back to being exclusive, I decided actually it was going to be too hard on all of us and I was very happy with my marriage beforehand and would be again. And am...

I really don't know. Honestly I would have said I was completely monogamously wired until lately because it never occurred to me to think of anything else. In 11 years I haven't felt stifled in my relationship, I know I could like my life happily on a desert island with my husband and we would...

I too do better with a real depth of love. I have that with my husband, I wouldn't ever want it to be any different. This has actually been an issue for me when thinking things through about my ex, I don't think he would desire the kind of connection that I most cherish with people. I suspect...

I guess in my head I have two meanings of love and how to define each of them I don't know. I guess something similar to "to show love" and "to feel love". I can certainly choose to show love (and this has the added benefit of increasing the feelings of love I have for that person). I don't...

This is really interesting. I think I could certainly choose to love someone less or more, but I'm not sure I could turn it off completely. I suspect that like for my ex I would always have fondness waiting to be reawakened if that makes sense. I can choose every day though whether to see my...

I don't mind OT conversation if nobody else does :) I would be happy to be with my husband and only my husband forever, we have had a wonderful 11 years together so far. We are limited on time together, but its not my husband's choice to work in the evenings, its just the nature of his job and...

Well I don't have any updates or anything other than that I'm enjoying just chatting with my ex sometimes and occasionally flirting. He's so busy that he doesn't reply to emails as promptly as I might like which sometimes leads me to pout a little but when we do talk on the phone we make each...

Hi, I've kind of been led here by my initial interest in a threesome with a male friend of my husband and I, but for now am enjoying a renewed closer friendship with him and focusing on my husband and I in what little time we have without small children fighting for our attention. I wanted to...

I'm sorry, I'm a newbie to this forum and don't feel qualified to weigh in really but I've been thinking so much about the situation in monogamous relationships where one person wants more sex than the other, and it seems so common for parents of young children. Most of my friends fall into this...

Thankyou so much for your reply, I'm so grateful for the space to work out my feelings and very grateful for any response to help me work through whats going on. I would agree with you that certainly earlier in our relationship I was very dependent on my husband. Things are different now, I...

Its been kind of complicated by something for me lately. I've always been fascinated by BDSM specifically being submissive and have had only a couple of vague experiences with it before I met my husband. My husband has always known about my desires but has struggled with the confidence to try to...

Well I keep reading and reading on this site of others experiences and I keep admiring my incredible husband who is willing (if not keen) to support me in having a closer relationship with this man. There are some things that sound so lovely to me, mainly being able to talk for hours with him...

Thankyou so much for your reply. I talk all the time with my husband, we've got so good at talking over jealousy issues (usually mine admittedly) over the years. I've been working on myself an awful lot over the last couple of years and my jealousy has become much less, and neither of us ever...

Hi there. This is my first time on this site and first time ever anywhere talking about this subject. I'm female, and very happily married to my sweetheart. We are best friends, and still completely in love. We have two young children. I always considered myself completely monogamous, since I...