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With me, casual sex is casual, until the sex part. That's when my attachment seems to surge a bit, and in many cases their attachment to me. Frankly I believe that when sex becomes involved its expected that there should be some growth of personal and intellectual attachment occurring as a...

Pertinent? Interesting question. In the context used, neither trait implies any kind of proficiency or lack of proficiency. In this case it was mentioned as traits that I commonly observe associated with someone who uses the "domme" title socially rather than equating said traits with their...

As a dedicated "kinky" person (I prefer the term "pervert"), I deeply distrust anyone who identifies themselves as a "domme" except for exactly three, however the rest of them tend to have personality traits and various behaviours socially I don't approve of; Its possibly a local community...

Owch. Just . . . Owch. Thats actually a reasonable situation for envy. I know NRE is a powerful force in the bedroom and the start of a new relationship get alot of the off the wall crazy fun things to pop out in the bedroom, but still most people develop a preference for at least some of...

Male. Heterosexual.

I can see it now-- I'll take a redhead, tall, with extra mammaries and an apple posterior. Hold the cheese. And a side of coleslaw with a Dr. Pepper. That would be the best sandwich shop EV-AR!

I've never understood some peoples need to keep a relationship secret from there friends, but that might be because my circle of friends are fairly open minded or participating in various kinds of alternative romance models themselves. However in this case, if the gf is actively cheating on a...

I'll raise a glass to that decision. Kudos for moving on.

Ah. That curse. Have you tried a day-labour place? Most require only boots and the willingness to take a manual shit-job, you don't really have to apply so much as show up in the wee hours of the morning and most pay out cash daily. Its terrible work, always terrible work that...

A blunt question; What is preventing you from changing this? Another blunt and frank question; If you cant leave because you have no means to support yourself financially, and you wont leave because emotionally you cant stand be be alone, and you have a knack for absorbing her dishonesty...

How are you supposed to develop a relationship properly under this kind of regime? No dates AND no weekends, no socialising, no evening calls, no sleep overs, no holidays, and she must have access to every bit of correspondence between you two? AND if they are on holidays you get ONE...

Having been with someone before that had severe psychological issues, sometimes the only functional comfort is someone else. It's not personal, it's at best a momentary escape from high levels of stress and pain with a side-serving of personal affections. Also having been the someone else for...

Personally I rely on the condescending powers of the all knowing smirk of "I know something you don't know, and it is great". If someone has a moral problem with how I have relationships, then they are free to fornicate themselves with a rough-shod iron stick. :) After all, I'm happy, and...

First off: if things are broken, fix them first. Adding extra partners to a fucked-up painful and unhealthy situation doesn't ever help things, it just makes the bad things more complicated. As far as poly goes, would YOU date you or her in your current situation? Think about it as a pickup...

Common phrase around here is "Tough, your outvoted." All in good fun. One time I'm recovering on my couch from a bit of manual labour done on behalf of a friend of mine (hauling debris from the demolition of a small brick house). I'm dead tired, sore as hell and quite comfortably sinking into...

yes. actually. I have noticed being married to my primary seems to cut the patience for new partners negative traits and major downswings preety much in half. And the longer you stay married, the shorter that patience gets as well. Its not that that I feel I care less for the new...

So, you knew the sudden and new relationship that you entered into was potentially something Ellie would be hurt by, but you chose to actively pursue it, and also chose not to disclose any details to her about this new relationship, or the possibly polyamorous tenancies you might have, for...

Speaking from some experience, I'm sorry to say, it sounds to me like you're getting hedged out by the other two. And for how terrible things seem to be going for you emotionally, which is to say your needs are not being met or fully addressed, this ultimately may be the healthiest course of...

Hi, I'm a long time poly person and I just stumbling across this place, figured I'd pop in. I'm married to a wonderful lady (also poly) for the last 7 years and counting, We've been thru a few relationships together (some good, some great, some bad) had our ups and downs, its been a hell...