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Great information!! The thing I like most about these systems is the economic and emotional security it provides. The family wealth keeps increasing as there is no division. There is no problem of taking care of children and the families can really go for good genes for better progeny. Maybe if...

A tourist once told me that while on a trip to some country he came across families who exchanged their members for sex regularly. Any children born belong to the mother's family. The bonds within the family were very strong while physical intimacy with other families in the village was...

I think a wide enough poly will be a great stabilizer. Alexi

The uncertainty of a poly relationship makes it very detrimental for having children. This could be a major drawback of polyamory - without atleast a proper economic support system. Am I right? Alexi

It is great to be poly. But in reality how does one fulfill the desire for children and their upbringing (all expenses included) particularly when this poly relationship can be fluid by its very character; besides being single? What has been your practical experience or of someone you know who...

Any idea how our ancestors from the earliest times could have survived incestuous relations till they gained some knowledge of genetics?

I wonder how things work out in the natural world. The animals still have survived for thousands of years. Do they have an ear for genetics, atleast at a very sub-conscious or instinctive level? Maybe in the same way it worked out well for the earlier matriarchal or other communities as they...

Nycindie, I hardly find any discssions where it involves children, in a poly relationship. Hence my observation. In any relations between the sexes, children must be an issue. How are the children to be taken care of. Infact there is a tacit understanding that care will be taken to remain...

Another interesting article: http://web.pdx.edu/~matg/Sociology/Gender_&_Sexualities_files/Mosuo%20Land%20of%20Walking%20MArriage_1.pdf

The biggest advantage in 'walking' marriages is that even as it gives max freedom to women and men, the children are automatically well taken care of. And the population gets regulated as well. And the society as a whole is open about sexual relationships. In my reckoning I would consider such...

In 'walking" marriages, I feel the benefits far outweigh the disadvantages. It does provide for privacy. Even in everyday environment we interact with people of different hues at work or at social gatherings, which we take in our stride out of sheer compulsion or necessity. In communities like...

The land where there are no husbands and marriage is unknown A good informative video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jQNOtIFTvAg Walking Marriages Probably the most famous – and most misunderstood – aspect of Mosuo culture is their practice of “walking marriages” (or “zou hun” in...

Sometime ago I happened to read about the Mosuo tribe of China and their 'walking' marriage which struck me as something superior to polyamory in many ways. An interesting video on the Mosuo tribe of China who practice "Walking Marriages". Quite informative...

Innovative and unique Thank you very much for your post, Urmila. Really it's a grand idea and innovative and unique indeed. In this I am reminded of the Oneida commune experiment. Or is it the Kerista... I am not very sure. But the fact you are going through a religious ceremony just about...

I am a little unclear about this. Can you please elaborate? Alexi

Urmila, very informative write-up indeed. In Hindu Dharma there are no restrictions of any kind and they come under smritis as distinct from sruthis (eternal values). And the beauty of Hinduism is things are very fluid, in that, one can adapt to the required situation of the times we live in and...

Have you all worked out any boundaries? What if one of you gets pregnant? Alexi

I understand that while many wives may deliberate or even abhor the very idea of a poly-amorous lifestyle in the beginning. But once into this lifestyle do they really like it or do it just to please their partners. I was seeing a video where they said that once introduced it's the women who...

I thank everyone of you for your very kind and thought-provoking replies to my dilemma. This removed my confusion. In fact, we four discussed your replies amongst ourselves and all of us very convincingly decided not to have kids, at least for the time being. Thank you, Alexi

His idea was that his proposal would strengthen our bonds as intimate couples for a long time. I now wonder if he was really serious. The wives are non-committal. He has good looks and claims he had earlier fathered a cute baby girl for a childless couple about 3 yrs ago. Alexi