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You're welcome! I've heard this before. I've also read that when we're looking for a mate we're attracted to someone whose immune system is vastly different from our own. So that when we're talking about pheromones we're actually talking about the smell of someone else's immune system. We want...

I agree. He did come off a bit as "I'm more enlightened than people who are monogamous," when he should hopefully understand that not every shoe fits every foot.

Easily the best part of the interview! "I'm gonna make you cry or stop a romantic moment because I...I own your vagina?" Hahaha True story: I Own My Own Vagina

Vincent Kartheiser from Mad Men has never been in a monogamous relationship. Just thought it would be an interesting read for some of you. Any thoughts? Reactions? http://lostinasupermarket.com/2009/10/mad-men’s-vincent-kartheiser-interview-pt-ii/

My bf and I lost two good friends because of this. I came to find out that she was prying and trying to convince my bf that he shouldn't be with me, that our relationship is "bad" and "unhealthy" and that he could never be happy with me because he's poly and I was never going to come to terms...

I imagined that would be the response. You're probably right. We've referred to her as something like toxic to most of his past relationships and this present one as well. Her presence in his life has been part of the cause of more than one break up. I suppose she assumed I'd be another one. She...

Messages of sweet nothings and the reactions Okay, I have a bit of an update. After the girl broke off communication with us (she said, "I am done with all of this. Good luck in whatever you two do.") we began picking up the pieces. We saw her words as a finality. She was done being involved...

I agree. It's so hard to get out of the mindset that everything is a competition. I'm starting to realize that "better," "worse" and "favorite" have no place in polyamory. It's difficult to give up the idea that if your partner wants to be with more than one person you are no longer "special" to...

It's so nice to realize that you have worth to someone. My bf and I have been discussing polyamory for a little over a year now brought on by his feelings for an ex who is polyamorous. I spent so much time crying to myself that there was no way he'd choose me if he had the chance to be with her...

She wasn't his gf. She was still just a friend. Although they had emotional investment in one another, so probably better categorized as a non sexual relationship. I'm not sure the situation can be fixed. I reached out to her and wrote a long email. She responded to let me know she had received...

A small step back, but a giant leap forward! Well, his friend has cut he and I out of her life for the time being. :( She was upset with how long things are taking and believes he is lying to both of us. When he told me I was shocked. I then became upset. But I attributed all of my sadness to...

Haha seeing your post just reminded me that I too was in a marching band. I played the fife. :)

I come from a musical family. My brother plays guitar, bass and piano and he sings, my mother sang and played the tambourine in a band when she was younger and my uncle plays just about anything he can create sound with. I sang in chorus in elementary school and middle school, but I grew shy in...

But knowing how uncomfortable I still am with the situation why go ahead and do something that it's clear I'm not going to be okay with at this point? It seems selfish to me and like it disregards my feelings and what I am comfortable with right now. It's somewhat provoking, is it not...

Plus, when I get to the end of the list of things I like about myself and I see "my boobs" I always laugh. Funny and 100% true! They are awesome! Haha It makes for a good way to start my day. :D

I agree. I'm going to try and work that stuff out with myself. I told him the other day that I've been spending years externalizing my happiness and self-esteem, but that's clearly not working out too well for me. It just places my self worth on a shaky tower and the minute some external "thing"...

This helped. It's incredibly easy to forget something as simple as that when you're so busy tearing yourself down. I've actually heard this quite a few times before (and always immediately thought, what bs!), but after I read your post I decided to give it a go and started my own lists. It's...

He does. Apparently, since everyone else is a-okay with it, I'm being silly for not being okay with it. :confused: I'm almost 100% certain he'd be interested in what I have to say... I just need to get over the fear of talking to someone who IV'm not terribly close to about something I am not...

Anne, they're not having lovey-dovey relationship conversations. They're friends. They were friends before we met and they'll continue to be friends if our relationship ever ends. I would feel quite immature and rude if I asked him not to talk to her on the phone in front of me. I just don't...

Jasmine, the thing is, I don't prefer to be mono. I too have hurt people in the past because I wanted to be with others and gave in to those desires without being up front and I've hurt other people because I ended friendships with them because I was afraid of how I felt about them and how they...